“About My Mom…”

Summary

• Understand others by considering their history and struggles, just like I did with my mother who had a hard time as an immigrant.
• Recognize that people can be successful relative to their starting point; my mother, for example, overcame significant hardships.
• When addressing conflicts, empathy can defuse tension; I chose understanding over anger and it transformed my relationship with my mother.
• Communicating understanding and forgiveness can have a powerful impact on relationships, as it did when I told my mother, "We're cool."
• Personal healing and relationship improvement can happen when we reframe our perspectives about those we've had conflicts with.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting with stepping into other people's shoes. If you're dealing with a tough person, think about what they've been through. It could be a family member, like a mom, or someone at work. They might have had a hard life, and that's why they act a certain way. This is a no-cost way to improve relationships.

When you face a conflict, show empathy rather than getting mad. Say you understand them. This could make the other person feel better and stop fights before they start. Just like when I told my mom, "We're cool," and it changed everything. It doesn't cost a dime, just a little time and patience.

Try looking at someone's success based on where they began, not just where they are now. That way, you'll see how far they've come, even if they're not at the top yet.

If you're having trouble with someone, take a moment to write down their story like I did for an essay about my mother. This could help you see their pain and struggles. And you might find peace, just like I did.

Remember to use kind words with people who are struggling. Sometimes a simple "I get you" can fix a broken relationship. It's a powerful and easy step—no cost, just compassion.

Practice these actions in little steps, one person at a time. It'll help you grow and could make your business better because people like working with someone who understands them.

Quotes by Alex Hormozi

"I understand you, I'm sorry you went through the stuff you went through, we're cool like you don't anger me anymore"

– Alex Hormozi

Full Transcript

I don't talk about my mother very much I blamed her for X YZ when I was 19 years old I had to write an essay about uh depression in an intro to site class and you had to do it from someone else's perspective and so you had to say how would the environment and their upbringing things like that contribute to the outcomes in their life and so by writing the essay about my mother's upbringing and how heart she had as an immigrant coming here getting beat up as a kid getting made up for not being able to speak the language all that kind of stuff she had a tough time and so it made sense and when I framed it like that I was like you know maybe she's actually a massive success given where she started so when I went back home for a fall break I remember she said something to me which would normally just like be the beginning of some big fight and she said the trigger and I was just like I understand you I'm sorry you went through the stuff you went through we're cool like you don't anger me anymore and she just like looked completely shocked and then just like started balling