About My Nose Job…
Summary
- Always be honest about your motivations and actions; for example, when I had cosmetic surgery, I was upfront about my reasons.
- Acknowledge your privileges, such as having the financial means to choose a good doctor for personal improvements.
- It's important to not fabricate a story to seem relatable; I never pretended to have insecurities I didn't have.
- By speaking openly about my personal choices, I reclaim power over my narrative.
- Understand that shame is often a social construct; what is deemed shameful is subjective.
- Hiding personal decisions can exacerbate feelings of shame, so it's better to be transparent.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest starting with honesty. Be honest about why you're doing something, just like I was with my cosmetic surgery. If you make a decision, own it. Don't make up stories to make others feel better. Bringing truth into your actions can make you feel more in control.
Remember to recognize what helps you succeed. For instance, if you had resources like money or connections that others might not, don't be shy to say so. It's not about bragging; it's about acknowledging your journey. This way, you can be grateful for your privileges without belittling others.
It's also important to talk openly about your personal choices. By doing this, you take back the power over your story. Don't let society dictate what you should feel embarrassed about. What might be shameful to one person might be a badge of honor to another.
If you're hiding something because you think people will judge you, well, they might. But hiding often makes the shame grow bigger inside. Instead, if you are transparent, you can feel freer. This doesn't mean telling everyone everything about your life, but when you decide to share, be honest.
In simple steps:
- Speak Your Truth: When you explain a decision, stick to the real reasons.
- Accept Your Advantages: Say thank you for the support you've received and use it wisely.
- Own Your Story: Share your choices with confidence. Don't let shame shape your narrative.
- Shed the Shame: Open up about your decisions. Letting go of secrets can lighten your heart.
By doing these things, you can build a more authentic you and connect better with the people around you. This is not just good for personal growth, but it also sets a strong foundation for business relationships based on trust and honesty.
Quotes by Leila Hormozi
"I gained my power back by talking about the things that I have done or haven't done"
– Leila Hormozi
"I have money and I found a good doctor and I think I would look way better with a different nose"
– Leila Hormozi
"if they want to say that that is conceited, that's fine but I'm not going to lie"
– Leila Hormozi
"I'm going to tell them the truth which is like I have money and I found a good doctor"
– Leila Hormozi
"I don't even think that anything inherently is shameful or not shameful"
– Leila Hormozi
Full Transcript
going to say when you share like what you did are you going to tell them that you were insecure and I was like no I'm going to tell them the truth which is like I have money and I found a good doctor and I think I would look way better with a different nose if they want to say that that is conceited that's fine but I'm not going to lie and say I was some insecure little girl who was scared about her nose i' never felt that way I gained my power back by talking about the things that I have done or haven't done I don't even think that anything inherently is shameful or not shameful we have this preconceived notion that it is or isn't and then we hide it and then that compounds the shame and we feel worse and worse
