Ambitious People Are Lonely People

Summary

• If you are ambitious, you must get used to being alone. Being exceptional means you aren't like normal people, and that's okay.
• Understand that wanting to be exceptional makes you different. People will see you as abnormal if you do things that are not normal.
• Many say they want big dreams like being an NFL player or a tech entrepreneur, but they don't act on it. They spend hours on things like playing Fortnite instead of working towards their goals.
• It might feel isolating when friends don't understand your dedication and call you obsessed with work or pressure you to take breaks.
• Think about how you spend your time. Ask yourself if what you're doing today will help you reach your goals or just be forgotten tomorrow.
• Sacrifice social activities if necessary. Use your time wisely to prepare and work towards the future you envision, even if that means missing a football game or hanging out.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest embracing the idea of being alone if you're ambitious. Understand that being exceptional means you're different, and that's okay. Once you accept this, the solo journey becomes easier.

A good way to start is by evaluating how you spend your time daily. Ask yourself: "Will this help me reach my goals?" Swap activities that don’t add value to your goals with productive tasks. If you want to be a tech entrepreneur, for example, spend less time on video games and more time learning coding or networking with professionals in the industry.

Think about small sacrifices in your social life. For instance, consider skipping a football game to work on your craft or skills. Remember, the time you invest in your future matters more than temporary fun.

Be honest with yourself. Do you really want what you say you want? If yes, then align your daily actions with your bigger dreams. It's okay if others don’t get it or see you as obsessed; their understanding is not necessary for your success.

Finally, keep checking if what you're doing today is building towards the future you want. Staying focused on this will help pave the path to achieving those exceptional goals.

Full Transcript

if you are someone who's ambitious and this is me just talking specifically to you you have to get used to being alone I'm saying this because I used to think that there was something wrong with me when in reality I just didn't understand what the nature of being exceptional meant to be exceptional means that you are the exception it means that you are not normal and so it's normal for normal people to find you abnormal if you do things that are not normal I had plenty of friends who were like I want to be an NFL player I want to be uh really rich Tech entrepreneur I want to be a a a touring musician right and they had these goals but I'm like dude I see you just playing fortnite 4 hours a day and you you practice guitar once a week like what do do you really want that or do you just like saying it because it makes you feel good realizing that I thought most people actually made no sense they say they had these goals but they took no action and they called me work obsessed and they would tell me I should take time off and they're like hey you're not you're not you're not as cool anymore you're not you're not hanging out with the boys like why aren't you participating in the fantasy league why aren't you watch watching football on Sunday with us but the thing is is that like I needed that Sunday cuz I had to prep workouts I had to prep the music list for the next day I had to run billing and I looked at that football game and I was like one year from today will I remember this football game or will I remember the fact that I'm not where I said I wanted to be