Become the Most Effective Leader Like This

Summary

• Be fluid in your identity to grow the most. Stick to your values and beliefs but stay flexible in your actions.
• Remember, "It's a do, not a who." Focus on what you do and not who you are. Skills like being organized and acting focused are things you can learn.
• To move into leadership, acquire necessary skills. Don’t say, "That's just not who I am" as it limits growth.
• Being defensive about your deficits is a sure way to stunt your personal and team's growth.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing flexibility in your identity to grow the most. Stick to your core values and beliefs but stay open to changing how you act. For example, if being organized isn't your strength, remember that it's a skill you can learn, not just a part of who you are.

A good way of doing this is to focus on what you do, not who you are. Instead of saying, "I'm not a detailed person," try learning techniques to become more organized. Simple tools like to-do lists or calendar apps can make a big difference.

If you want to move into leadership, start acquiring the skills you need. Don't say, "That's just not who I am," because that limits your growth. Instead, take small steps towards learning new skills. Read leadership books, listen to podcasts, or take short online courses. These can be low-cost but very high in value.

Avoid being defensive about your deficits. If someone points out an area where you can improve, see it as an opportunity to grow rather than a criticism. For instance, if you're told you need to be better at time management, look for strategies to improve. Time management apps or techniques like the Pomodoro Technique can help you become more efficient.

By staying flexible and willing to learn, you can grow personally and help your team grow as well. Remember, it's all about what you do and the skills you develop, not just who you think you are.

Full Transcript

those who grow the most I would say are the most fluid in their identities you stand up for your values you stand up for your beliefs but you remain flexible in how you act this is of my favorite saying it's a do not a who it's what you do it's not who you are so like being organized acting focused you know being flexible those are all skills they're not part of who you are in order to move up into a leadership position for example those are skills that people have to acquire but just to be clear I think that this is probably one of the biggest things that blocks people is they say like that's just not who I am I've just never done things that way well why could you not learn you know what I mean and so I think Defending Your deficits is the shest way that you're going to stunt your growth and the team that surrounds you