Summary

• You can't win by seeking others' approval; aim for your own standards because only you know if you tried your hardest.
• As a champion, your standards are higher, making it tougher to measure up to yourself even when you win.
• It's essential to understand that everyone who truly gives their all and tries their hardest has won in their own right.
• Often, 50% of people are driven by shame, fearing that if they lose, it means they suck.
• When the fear of losing doesn't exist, some champions may slack off, leading to a risk of losing.
• Some champions lose their meaning in winning, leading to destructive behaviors like falling into alcohol but sometimes they come back stronger.

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How To Take Action

Small Business and Personal Growth: Winning on Your Terms

I would suggest implementing practices that center on setting your own standards and aiming for personal excellence. This means considering your efforts and setting your benchmarks rather than seeking approval from others. Here’s how to do that:

1. Set Personal Goals: Write down what success looks like for you. Focus on specific, achievable goals. Instead of seeking validation from others, make your own benchmarks that push you but are attainable.

2. Daily Self-Assessment: At the end of each day, ask yourself if you truly gave it your all. Reflect honestly about your efforts. Did you complete the tasks to the best of your ability? If yes, you’ve won for the day.

3. Mindset Shift: Understand that giving your all is winning. If you’ve tried your hardest, you have succeeded regardless of the outcome. This mindset helps in maintaining motivation and resilience.

4. Balance Your Standards: While having high standards is great, ensure they are realistic. Unrealistically high standards can lead to unnecessary frustration. Celebrate small victories to keep morale high.

5. Avoid Negative Triggers: If you find yourself driven by the fear of failure, shift that drive to a positive force. Use a failure as a learning experience and a step towards refining your process and improving.

6. Measuring Progress: Regularly check in on your progress towards your personal goals. Adjust them if necessary and acknowledge the progress you’ve made rather than just focusing on what’s left to achieve.

7. Healthy Habits: Often, champions lose meaning and turn to destructive behaviors like alcohol. Instead, cultivate healthy habits like exercise, meditation, or hobbies that keep your mind and body sharp.

By focusing on these low-cost, high-value strategies, you’re not just working hard; you’re working smart by defining your journey and celebrating your personal wins.

Full Transcript

you can't win by their approval because everyone approves of you because you've already beaten everyone because you've surpassed their dreams yeah but not yours because you know you can do more and so that's when you become judge jury and executioner because only you know if you really tried your hardest for sure and it's harder as a champion because your standards are higher so you end up winning but in the case that something happens you [ __ ] tear your quad the day before like I [ __ ] left it on the field but there's still probably 10 people out there who gave their all and aren't going to win because they're not me you know in my mind they won to themselves yes and I also know 50% people get it and then 50% of it just come from the fact of being like driving from shame like if I lose and I suck and been a lot of people start there I did because what happens is when you don't think there's a probability of losing then one either you [ __ ] off and try and get yourself into the possibility of losing to then create the comeback which is what some Champions do they fall into alcohol and they come back in CU they lost the meaning of it yeah or they changed what winning means to them