Does That Thought Serve Your Future Self?

Summary

• Assume responsibility for your reactions rather than assuming others' intentions based on gender.
• Don't change your behavior preemptively because you think people won't respect you due to being a woman.
• Accept that you might never know the exact reason why someone might disrespect you.
• Consider if attributing disrespect to being a woman serves your future growth.
• Focus on reasons you can control for why people may not respect you, and work on those aspects.
• Choose beliefs that empower you and help you grow rather than those that limit or hinder you.

Video

How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing these strategies to help you grow personally and professionally:

Take Responsibility for Your Reactions

First, instead of assuming others' intentions, focus on your own reactions. If you feel disrespected, ask yourself if it's useful to believe it's due to your gender. You might never know the true reason, so adjust how you respond based on what you can control.

Show Up as Your Best Self

Rather than changing your behavior because you assume people will judge you, show up as the confident, capable person you are. Your consistency in presenting yourself this way will garner the respect you seek over time.

Choose Empowering Beliefs

Embrace beliefs that drive your growth. If attributing disrespect to being a woman doesn't serve you, choose to believe in reasons you can control. This mindset encourages you to focus on areas where you can improve and take actionable steps.

Focus on Controllable Reasons for Respect

Identify factors you can influence, such as your skills, knowledge, and how you communicate. Work on these aspects, rather than worrying about others' biases. People respect competence and confidence, regardless of gender.

Practice Self-Reflection

Regularly reflect on your experiences and reactions. Ask yourself how you've handled situations and what you could do differently next time. This process helps you build a stronger, more resilient mindset.

By implementing these strategies, you'll find yourself growing more confident and capable, regardless of others' perceptions. Focus on what you can change, and let go of what you can't control.

Full Transcript

because you assume that people don't respect you because you're a woman that you change your behavior before they do that you have gone into a conversation expecting the other person to act a certain way and you have changed how you showed up because of it the second piece of that will you ever know that 100% the reason they don't respect you is because you're a woman probably not maybe they don't respect you because you're a woman even if they don't how is this useful for you and so when you're presented with these situations where you feel like you might be disrespected because you're a woman you have to ask yourself which belief serves My Future Self thinking that people don't respect me because I'm a woman which I can do nothing about or thinking that there's a million other reasons that people could disrespect me or not have respect for me and I can do something about it