Employees Are Scared of Me?
Summary
- It takes time for people to realize that I won't yell at them, especially if they had a punishing boss before.
- I have to counter their past experiences by consistently not yelling, which means outdoing what their previous boss did.
- Even if their last boss only yelled after several meetings, I need to maintain a non-punishing demeanor until they trust that I’m different.
- I am committed to being the opposite of a punishing leader, but I understand that overcoming past fears in others isn't instant.
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How To Take Action
A good way of creating a positive work environment is by consistently acting in a non-punishing manner. If you're a leader, make an effort to be kind and patient, especially if your team has had negative experiences in the past. Here are simple ways to do this:
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Be Consistent: Keep a calm demeanor during meetings. Even if things don't go perfectly, avoid yelling or becoming frustrated. It’s about repeating this positive behavior to replace their past negative experiences.
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Communicate Openly: Encourage your team to share their thoughts and worries. Make it clear that they can speak freely without fear of retribution. This will help build trust faster.
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Set Clear Expectations: Make sure everyone knows what's expected from them. When people understand their roles and tasks, it reduces stress and misunderstandings, which leads to a calmer atmosphere.
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Provide Positive Feedback: Don't just focus on what needs to be improved. Make an effort to acknowledge and praise good work often. This shows you value their efforts and creates a positive cycle.
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Model Forgiveness: Mistakes happen. Show your team that it’s okay to make mistakes, and focus on finding solutions rather than placing blame.
By consistently implementing these strategies, you can create a supportive work environment where people feel safe, motivated, and understood, ultimately leading to a more productive and happy team.
Full Transcript
how many times does it take of me not yelling at somebody for them to realize I'm not going to yell at them if you've had a boss before that has been punishing to you you might come in and you might have your first talk with me and I can tell you're nervous and it's like I'm not a punishing person I'm like the opposite but I can feel the fear I have to outdo whatever their last boss did cuz their last boss might have met with them five times nothing nothing nothing yell and scream until I nothing nothing nothing nothing nothing nothing past the yelling and the screaming they're not going to believe it
