ENTREPRENEUR STRUGGLE, CHAOS & BEATING IT!
Summary
- I've discovered that a key to unlocking significant revenue was not about a specific relationship, but rather my relationship with discomfort.
- As an entrepreneur, I noticed that I was more comfortable being busy and taking on challenges than being still and reflective.
- The true challenge often lies in managing internal chaos — the emotions and thoughts that surface when we're not constantly in motion.
- By staying perpetually busy, we avoid dealing with our internal struggles, thereby creating more chaos and hindering our business growth.
- I realized that by not taking time to think and process my emotions, I was exhausting myself and negatively impacting my team and company.
- Accepting and expecting uncomfortable emotions is a crucial step toward growth; 50% of running a business will be difficult, but that is balanced by the positive 50%.
- Asking ourselves if our actions to solve problems are creating more issues can help us determine whether a problem truly needs solving or if we need to simply accept certain struggles as part of life and business.
- Understanding that everyone experiences internal chaos can help us stop unnecessary efforts to escape these feelings, which in turn can inadvertently harm our businesses.
- Embracing and managing uncomfortable emotions instead of rejecting them is key to personal and business growth.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest taking time to be still and reflect. As an entrepreneur, you may be used to always being busy and tackling challenges. But it's important to manage the internal chaos, which means dealing with emotions and thoughts that surface when you're not constantly on the move.
To start, embrace discomfort. Knowing that half of running a business will be tough helps balance expectations. Remember, overcoming challenges is a part of growth.
Here's a step-by-step plan:
- Set aside regular time for reflection. This could be just 10 minutes a day to start with. Use this time to think about your feelings and thoughts without judgment.
- Identify when you're creating chaos to avoid dealing with internal issues. Next time you feel anxious or stressed, ask yourself: Am I keeping busy to avoid addressing something bigger?
- Accept that feeling negative emotions is a normal part of life and business. Instead of trying to fix every external problem, focus on your reaction to these problems.
- When facing a problem, ask yourself: Is my solution creating new issues? If the answer is yes, consider whether the problem is external or if it stems from an unwillingness to face uncomfortable emotions.
- Practice letting go of control in your business. Delegate tasks and understand that mistakes and uncertainty are part of the process. This can reduce the need for constant busyness.
By managing your internal chaos, you'll be more present and effective in your business, and you'll set a better example for your team. It's about growth, both personal and for your business. Remember, it's okay to feel uncomfortable. It's part of the journey toward success.
Quotes by Leila Hormozi
"The one relationship that unlocked a hundred million dollars in revenue for me"
– Leila Hormozi
"I have never been someone who has run away from a challenge"
– Leila Hormozi
"We are comfortable with being extremely busy and with doing all the time, but we are not comfortable being still and thinking"
– Leila Hormozi
"The glass ceiling is the switch between busyness and stillness"
– Leila Hormozi
"You have external chaos and the reason that you are comfortable immersing yourself in it is because you have learned how to solve it"
– Leila Hormozi
Full Transcript
what is up today uh what i want to talk about is the one relationship that unlocked a hundred million dollars in revenue for me and for those of you who have been watching my channel i know that you're probably thinking um oh she's gonna talk about her relationship with alex but uh that is actually not what i'm going to talk about today so what i want to talk about today is something that um i've observed in myself for a long time and it's something that i can now see more and more in others particularly entrepreneurs who are starting out in the journey and what that relationship is is it's their relationship with discomfort and let me play it out like this right i have never been someone who has run away from a challenge and i think that most people who start businesses don't do that i think that maybe they did but then they actually learned to seek out challenges but what i see happens and what happened to me is that we create a ton of chaos within our lives through the business because what actually happens is that we are comfortable with being extremely busy and with doing all the time but we are not comfortable being still and thinking and taking more time and so the discomfort actually kind of switches and the reason that i have come to believe that i did this to myself and i've seen a lot of other people do it is because what happens when you start a business is there's so many emotions around it and there's so much stress and chaos and all the stuff that it is easier to deal with that than it is to deal with the chaos in our own heads right and so it's something that i think we then spend all of this time fixing things externally um trying to solve for the chaos that is actually in our heads right and so we have this thing outside of us that is really easy to work on it's really easy to fix it's really easy to say there's problems everywhere and so because of that we're not solving the actual things in our head right we're not having to deal with the emotions of running a business not having to deal with the discomfort of you know what thoughts arise when we sit by ourselves what thoughts arise when we don't work for a day what thoughts arise when we're not you know perfectly on routine you know there's tons of books on what the glass ceiling is for people i think that's the glass ceiling i think that it is the switch between busyness and stillness and the reason that so many people can't make it is because because um their relationship with discomfort because the discomfort has changed it's no longer that you're uncomfortable with challenges or adversity or any of that stuff it's you're uncomfortable with your emotions and your thoughts when you're alone and so that's why a lot of people can't sit back it's like i can't step back because every time i do i get tons of anxiety i can't stay back because every time i do i feel like people drop the ball i feel like i get anxiety right people get scared and they can't deal with those emotions so rather than deal with those emotions and say this is part of stepping back from the business this is part of delegation this is part of a growing business is losing control and having emotions that arise instead they just jump back in and just do right there's trying to solve the external when the reality is is that they need to solve the internal and so i share that because i think that for myself i noticed this came out in really rigid routines being super busy all the time working you know 14 hour days all the time um you know taking 11 12 meetings a day and not not even paying attention the fact that i was absolutely exhausted and i didn't realize until i got myself out of it how much of a discount i was doing to my team and my company because i wasn't taking time to think and i think now now that i see that and i've had much time to think and to process emotions and to confront the difficult feelings that arise when you step back and you take time i really see that that's the number one problem for most people and that's why they can't continue to grow their businesses there's something else that they are running from right and it's typically in their own minds and so the first thing i want to say if is if this resonates with you is that it is completely normal to have internal chaos so here's the thing you have external chaos and the reason that you are comfortable immersing yourself in it is because you have learned how to solve it how to manage it right you don't even solve it you manage it but if you don't take the time to be still to be by yourself to take space from the business you don't learn how to manage the internal chaos and so then it's really funny because in reality it doesn't take that long to learn how to manage that to learn how to be still to learn how to be quiet but we don't even give ourselves a chance and so we spend all this time spinning in circles because we're trying not to experience what that actually feels like and a lot of the times people think like oh all these thoughts and these feelings i'm having about the business are bad and wrong and the reality is like i i wish so badly that we could take everyone in a room put a room of like 20 entrepreneurs and we could open up everyone's minds and you could see how up everyone's thoughts are and their feelings that arise like holy crap like you think you have anxiety try that guy over there right because we all experience these things and i think that the reason that people run so much from the internal chaos is because they think it's abnormal and they think there's something wrong with them and the reality is that if you're a human and you're part of the human species it is normal it is part of your contract with life and it's actually part of your contract with success right um in order to have the success that you are going to have 50 of the business life etc is going to suck and the reality is is that if you really think about it if you know many people say like i don't want the 50 of the negative they're trying so hard to get rid of the 50 that's negative and the reality is is that if you didn't have the 50 that was negative would the positive even exist and so if that is the case then is the negative even negative if it is a prerequisite for the positive something to think about what i realized is that in trying to avoid uncomfortable feelings thoughts etc we actually create more discomfort because we spend we we stress over our stress right like we spend our lives chasing and running from something that doesn't exist is only within our heads and so it will ruin most businesses and it will be it is the reason businesses start and it is also the reason most of them don't grow is the chaos right it's the need for external chaos to escape the internal chaos and that is good to get something off the ground is not good to keep it going it's not good to grow it and so that is where i see most people bottleneck themselves and this isn't just entrepreneurs this is also leaders and businesses and managers they do the same thing it's just human nature and so what i have come to understand is that accepting and expecting uncomfortable thoughts feelings emotions when i step back when i am more still when i have time to think is what i must do i am not to solve whatever's going on in the external world i have to accept the fact that 50 of running a business and 50 of life in general is going to suck but that's okay because i know there's another 50 on the other side and so if you look at the behaviors that you have what i want you to ask yourself because i ask myself is me trying to solve this thing creating more problems than the thing itself okay that's what i ask myself is me trying to solve it actually creating more problems in the process than the one that exists in my mind right and if the answer is yes then it's probably something you just need to accept as a fact of business or a fact of life and that is what i would call befriending the negativity which is it is okay to feel negative it is okay to have bad thoughts it is okay to feel like crap sometimes but we spend all this time and energy rejecting it and not accepting it and saying i must change the external in order to do that and if you do that you will never grow your business or you might grow it and then you will burn out and then you will realize all along that you were doing so many things out of the need to escape this internal chaos rather than the need to actually grow a business because growing a business is actually very simple but if you emesh the business within your own emotions and is like extension of you and your bad habits right your bad mental habits then it's never going to grow to where you want it to right not until you step back and you say i'm going to take care and i'm going to manage the thing in here i'm going to befriend my uncomfortable emotions right i'm going to accept that they exist i'm not going to try and change anything and so realizing that these you know horrible thoughts and feelings etc that you're feverishly trying to avoid are normal and experienced by literally all of us i think that that is the number one takeaway i would have for everybody is that i we spend all this time trying to avoid these things that are absolutely normal and experienced by everybody and i think that if everyone knew that they wouldn't spend so much time doing that and in the consequence of doing those things often harm their businesses and so remember if you in the process of trying to solve a problem create more problems then it is probably not a problem to be solved but an emotion a thought a situation etc to be accepted so if you like that go ahead hit subscribe i will see you on the next video
