“Fair” Is Fictional
Summary
- I believe we shouldn't use "should" because it creates expectations on an uncaring universe.
- Demanding fairness doesn't change reality and won't make us stronger.
- Life can be unfair and harsh, like baby seals being eaten by orcas, and complaining doesn't change that.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest focusing on accepting reality as it is rather than using "should" and expecting fairness. Embrace life's unfairness because it frees up mental energy to focus on what you can control. Start by recognizing moments when you use "should" and reframe your thoughts. For instance, instead of thinking, "I should have more customers," reframe it to "What can I do to attract more customers?" This shifts your mindset from defeat to action.
A good way of doing this is by practicing gratitude daily. Take a few minutes each morning to jot down three things you're thankful for. This simple act helps you appreciate what you have and reduces your focus on what "should" be different.
Additionally, invest time in learning and growing stronger from challenges. Instead of viewing obstacles as unfair, see them as opportunities to develop resilience. Reflect on past challenges you've overcome and how they've made you stronger. This builds confidence and prepares you to handle future hurdles better.
Lastly, surround yourself with like-minded individuals who also focus on action rather than complaining. Join a community group or online forum where you can share experiences and learn strategies without dwelling on "shoulds." Friends who encourage progress help reinforce a more positive perspective. By implementing these strategies, you'll spend less time on unmet expectations and more time making things happen in your business and personal growth journey.
Full Transcript
it's not fair I shouldn't have to I should it should things shouldn't it's all shoulds should in my worldview should not exist because should creates expectations of an uncaring Universe it says that you demand something and I promise you that the universe will win all you have to do is watch like baby seals just get immediately eaten by orcas after like a mother is laying there on the ice to be like wow life isn't fair I'm sure that seal could be like it's not fair that my baby were literally eaten in front of me tough they have mamal brains we can see that they got they got some feelings does demanding that it should be fair make you stronger no