Find Friends That Tell You “No”
Summary
- When people criticize my ideas, I view it with a sense of flexibility and openness.
- I differentiate between criticism of ideas and criticism of values; the latter I hold much more firmly.
- My approach to sharing ideas with a group emphasizes that they are open to critique; I invite others to "tear apart" my ideas after briefly expressing enthusiasm for them.
- By labeling my suggestions as "my best bad idea," I set the stage for constructive criticism and improvement.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest starting with an open mindset when it comes to feedback. When you have a new idea, think of it as a "best bad idea." This means that you're open to improvement. Share your ideas with others and invite them to give you their honest thoughts. Tell them they can "tear apart" your idea. This isn't about being negative, it's about getting different perspectives to make your idea better.
If you're worried about criticism, remember there's a big difference between someone not liking your idea and someone not liking your values. Hold your values close, but keep your ideas flexible. Try this approach next time you're in a meeting or talking with friends about your business or personal goals. Be excited about your idea for a moment, then let others jump in with their thoughts.
Here's how you can put this into action:
- Be Open to Feedback: Next time you have an idea, say to your friends or team, "Here's my best bad idea. What do you all think?"
- Separate Values from Ideas: Remember, your values are what you stand on, but ideas are just starting points that can always be improved.
- Encourage Constructive Criticism: When you present an idea, make it clear that you want feedback. Say, "I love this idea, but I want you to help make it even better."
This way, you can find low-cost, high-value changes quickly. You'll learn faster and make smarter decisions without spending much money or time. Plus, you'll get better at dealing with feedback, and that's a skill that always pays off.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
"This is my best bad idea"
– Alex Hormozi
"You can tear it apart"
– Alex Hormozi
"I feel very strong about my values"
– Alex Hormozi
"Love my idea for five seconds"
– Alex Hormozi
"There's a difference between like criticizing an idea or criticizing a way of living"
– Alex Hormozi
Full Transcript
do you have people in your life though who say Alex this is a bad idea no don't do this for sure well there's difference between like criticizing an idea or criticizing a way of living so if someone's going to attack values and that's like I feel very strong about my values but my ideas you know Loosely help like when we introduce an idea to the group it's always like this is my best bad idea you know I'll say love my idea for five seconds and then I'll say it and then it's like you can you can tear it apart right
