From arrested 6 times to CEO of a $100,000,000 Portfolio

Summary

• I learned the hard way that reckless behavior and a desire for acceptance can lead to serious consequences, like my multiple arrests.
• Experiencing a transformation from being ignored to suddenly desired in high school, I became addicted to the feeling of being valued by others.
• I realized after a serious talk with my dad, who expressed fear for my life, that my actions were selfish and could lead to a destructive future.
• This wake-up call pushed me into self-development. I started focusing on fitness, improving my grades, and distancing myself from friends who partied too much.
• Embracing loneliness was a part of my journey; it was necessary for personal growth even though it was against the norm.
• I moved into my own apartment to create an environment conducive to self-improvement and to avoid the constant influence of partying peers.
• The fear of missing out on my potential future self drove me to work hard and learn about business and self-development, aiming to achieve more by 30 than others by 40.
• My self-realization was that no one else can change my life for me. My family also made it clear they wouldn't enable my destructive behavior.
• I learned to take complete responsibility for my actions and future, recognizing that my past does not have to define me.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting by taking a serious look at your life, just like I did when my dad said he was scared for me. If you see parts of your life that are hurting you, make a plan to change them. Try to focus on things that make you stronger, smarter, or healthier. Here's how:

First, make your health a priority. Like when I focused on fitness, find a way to get more active. It could be as simple as walking more or trying out a new sport that you like.

Second, think about who you spend time with. Are your friends helping you grow or holding you back? If they're more into partying than building their future, it might be time to find new friends who share your goals.

If you want to get better at school or your job, try setting aside a little time each day to learn something new. This could mean reading a book about business or watching videos to improve a skill.

Remember, it's okay to be alone sometimes. Loneliness can be tough, but it can also help you grow. You might even consider creating a space of your own, like when I moved into my own apartment. A quiet place can help you think and work without distractions.

Lastly, know that your past doesn't have to control your future. Take full responsibility for your actions and believe that you can change your life. Nobody else can do that for you. It's all up to you! Just start with small steps, and don't be afraid to work hard for the life you want.

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"Nobody's coming to save you"

– Leila Hormozi

"I'm just really afraid you're going to die"

– Leila Hormozi

"What's gonna happen if you continue for the next five years to do that"

– Leila Hormozi

"If you want to be unlike everyone else, you can't do what they're doing"

– Leila Hormozi

"I realized I need to do something"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

arrested like six times i was so stupid i would be partying one day i got arrested and got like an mip and they brought me back to my dad's house my parents sat me down i'm expecting them to yell at me and i remember my dad looked at me and he was like i'm just really afraid you're gonna die what's gonna happen if you continue for the next five years to do that that's pretty scary i had my partying phase when i was i want to say like 16 to almost 20. in high school i think you're still rebelling against what you were in middle school middle school i had glasses braces i was fat i was ugly hadn't hit puberty and then it was like the summer before freshman year i got my glasses off i got my braces off i lost like 15 pounds and i got boobs and i was like hell yeah this is great but i was super shy still a couple years into i started gaining a little bit more self-confidence i started getting invited to parties by people that were older than me in college and all that stuff and i started getting like addicted to the feeling of self-importance feeling like other people really liked me and feeling valued by other people it was like i'd been ignored and usually made fun of for such a long time that when i finally like got into a space in high school when people like actually desired me whether it was guys or girls to be my friend i couldn't get enough of it i would go to the parties just because i liked that feeling and i started throwing parties my parents were out town which they know because my parents knew that i had been like toe dipping and partying they started really cracking down then when i got out it was like the floodgates had gone right and so within a matter of 18 months i got arrested like six times only an idiot could arrest them like i was so stupid then my grades started slipping in college i felt bad about myself because i knew this isn't the converse i want to be and there was this like self-fulfilling prophecy until one day i think i got arrested and got like an mip and they brought me back to my dad's house instead of my dorm the next day you know my parents sat me down i'm expecting them to yell at me and i remember my dad looked at me and he was like i'm just really afraid you're going to die and i felt really bad because you know he's like a really good dad and i just felt like that's so selfish of me to be doing like i'm young i haven't had a hard life i don't have an excuse like i grew up in america like i have food and water i was like what kind of person you want to be you know like this is and if someone's watching this today and like they're drinking and partying all the time it's like what's gonna happen if you continue for the next five years to do that i could just be like a mess of drugs and alcohol or what if i turned my life around today then what does my life look like in five years i like immediately snapped out of it and i just went into like complete self-development mode i got in shape started getting my grades on track i cut out pretty much all my friends that loved partying and drinking doing all that stuff honestly i was super lonely because that's what's normal normal huh yeah right like it's normal to do what everyone else does to go to all the parties to spend all your ancillary time socializing trying to fit in and do all that stuff and i just went the opposite direction i remember always listening to this tape from tony robbins where he was like if you want to be unlike everyone else and you can't do what they're doing i remember consistently telling myself that because i was like this is so painful i actually end up moving out of the apartment with my friends and literally in college i live by myself as like a female which is weird right like like it's like i was like i can't be in this environment because it's so hard to constantly be around people who are drinking partying and not painting a vision for their lives and i think i lost a lot of friends because of it and i think that i also wouldn't have become the person i am if i hadn't made those decisions then because i knew i was like if i do this now i know i'm getting ahead because if everyone's partying and drinking right now and i start studying and learning about business and self-development and building something for myself like by the time when i'm 30 i'm gonna have done more than everybody when they're 40 if i do this now that was what kept me going and moving forward but a lot of what drove me to just not go in that direction was really just fear of missing out on who i could have been if i was sitting down with myself at 19 i would tell myself what i think did actually help me kind of snap out of it which was nobody's coming to save you nobody's taking action for you nobody's changing your life for you nobody's going to give you a handout not because you're young not because you're a woman not because you're in college and you up even my family told me they're like we're not going to help you like we're out like if you want to treat yourself this way cool we're not going to be around you one that was horrifying and humiliating and two it was amazing because i realized i need to do something that's why i would tell myself it's like nobody's coming to save you like it sounds cliche and everyone says it's like you're the only one who can do this it doesn't matter what happened in the past past is my imagination like what happens now is what i decide to do and i'm a full-grown adult now and so i think it was that realization that propelled me forward to kind of get out of that mess