How to Always Get the Truth Out of People
Summary
- If you want honest feedback, ask others what they would tell you if they knew you wouldn't get angry or upset.
- You might hear things like being too direct, not easy to communicate with, taking too long to respond, or being late to meetings, which annoys people.
- Try this exercise with your spouse or team to discover your blind spots.
- I believe it's better to have people confront you directly than talk behind your back.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest starting with a powerful exercise to uncover your blind spots: Ask people to share honest feedback by assuring them you won't get angry or upset. This method can unlock insights like being overly direct or slow to respond to messages.
Try this first with your spouse or someone close, then with your team. It's key to finding out how you come across to others. Here's how to do it:
- Approach someone you trust and ask them, "What would you tell me if you knew I wouldn't get angry or upset?"
- Listen carefully to what they say. You might hear things like "You're really blunt," or "You're hard to get in touch with."
- Don't react defensively. Just say thanks and think about the feedback.
- Write down what you've learned. Are you late to meetings? Does it bug people when you take too long to reply to emails or texts?
- Pick one thing you want to work on and make a plan. If you're always late, set reminders to leave earlier. If your replies are slow, set aside time each day to respond to messages.
- Check in with the same people after a few weeks to see if they've noticed any changes.
Remember, it's better to have someone be honest with you than talk behind your back. This low-cost strategy is all about communication and self-improvement, and it can make a huge difference in your personal and business relationships.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
"What would you tell me if you knew I wouldn't get angry"
– Alex Hormozi
"What would you tell me if you knew it wouldn't upset me"
– Alex Hormozi
"You get so much truthful feedback from people"
– Alex Hormozi
"You tend to be late on meetings and it really pisses everyone off"
– Alex Hormozi
"I would rather people talk to my face"
– Alex Hormozi
Full Transcript
what would you tell me if you knew I wouldn't get angry what would you tell me if you knew it wouldn't upset me and you get so much truthful feedback from people like hey you're really short or hey you're gble to communicate with or hey you take really long to respond or hey you tend to be late on meetings and it really pisses everyone off I would encourage you even maybe with your spouse to start but your team it's a really good exercise and you get some really good answers and a lot of times you get blind spots that you become made aware of and at least as far as I'm concerned I would rather people talk to my face
