How To Always Get What You Want
Summary
- When you ask for something, frame your request in a way that makes people want to say yes.
- Avoid asking questions in a way that invites a negative response.
- Use positive, exciting framing to encourage others to help you, like asking a librarian if they want to be the coolest by helping you.
- Make the choice clear, where agreeing makes them feel good and important.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing a strategy of positive and clear communication when asking for help or making requests. Think about how to frame your request in a way that makes people feel excited and important. For instance, if you need a favor, ask in a way that highlights the benefit or fun aspect for the person you're asking. This could make them more inclined to help.
A good way of doing this is by avoiding language that could lead to a negative response. Instead, focus on making the choice enjoyable and beneficial for them. For example, if you need advice from a mentor, you might say, "Would you like to share your amazing expertise on this?" This makes them feel valued and gives them a reason to say yes.
Always aim to make your request clear and simple, highlighting the positive impact of their help. This approach can greatly enhance your ability to get what you need without negativity. It's a low-cost way to improve communication and can have a high impact on your relationships, both personally and professionally. Start practicing this technique with small requests and see how much more often people respond positively.
