I Got Turned Down By a Mentor

Summary

• I once met a renowned CEO coach from Silicon Valley and asked if I could pay him millions of dollars to be my mentor.
• He kindly declined and explained that he chooses the people he mentors.
• Initially, I was disappointed but understood why he refused; I wasn't the CEO of a major company like Facebook.
• The hard truth is that you may not be worthy of being someone's mentee if they decline to mentor you.
• If someone doesn't respond to your request for mentorship, it's a sign that you need to demonstrate more excellence to be worth their time.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting by focusing on demonstrating excellence in what you do. Begin by identifying the key areas where you can improve your skills or knowledge, whether it's in your business, personal growth, or entrepreneurial journey.

A good way of doing this is to set specific, measurable goals and work diligently towards achieving them. This can be done through self-study, attending workshops, or finding online resources that are relevant to your field. By showing tangible improvements in your work, you’ll make yourself more appealing to potential mentors.

Another useful strategy is to build a strong personal brand. Share your successes and learning experiences on social media platforms like LinkedIn, Twitter, or even a personal blog. Document your journey and let your growth be visible to others. This doesn't cost anything but your time, and the payoff can be significant as it shows your commitment and allows others to see your progress.

Network with peers and professionals in your industry. Instead of going straight to the top, form relationships with people who are a few steps ahead of you. They might offer mentorship, or at least valuable advice, giving you stepping stones to eventually attract the high-level mentor you desire.

Lastly, don't be afraid to ask for feedback. Whether it’s from customers, colleagues, or other business owners, constructive criticism can shine a light on areas you need to improve. This feedback loop is crucial for growing and demonstrating that you are worth investing time in.

Remember, showing excellence and commitment in your efforts will naturally attract the mentors you seek.

Full Transcript

there is this guy and he is one of the most renowned CEO coaches in all of Silicon Valley I met him by chance and I was silly enough to ask him if I could pay him millions of dollars to be my mentor he was just very sweet but was like I choose the people I Mentor okay honestly I won't even say it was a tough pill to swallow cuz I was just like I get it I'm not the CEO of Facebook and so it is what it is like that person's not going to Mentor me I'm not worthy of it I haven't demonstrated enough Excellence to give them a high enough return on mentoring me that person that you want to your Mentor you may not be worthy of being their mentee because the reality is if you were they would have responded to you and they would approach you and I've had to learn that the hard way