I had a bad day

Summary

• On days when I'm overwhelmed, like during a book launch, I've learned it's crucial to say no to any additional commitments until the critical tasks are complete.
• When I'm having a really tough day, even if it coincides with special events like a birthday, I prioritize work and manage stress without letting it affect my relationships.
• Staying polite and apologizing if I'm snappy or rude is important, as stress should never justify poor treatment of others, and maintaining respect in all interactions remains a priority.
• It's okay to not always share your stress, especially if it can burden others unnecessarily. Sometimes, keeping a momentary emotion to myself is better for the team's focus and morale.
• Having a strong support system, like a couple of reliable friends or assistants, provides invaluable backup and allows me to stay on top of my responsibilities.
• Taking care of my well-being is key, and it's alright not to participate in content creation or podcasts if it doesn't align with my immediate work demands or mental state.
• I accept anxiety as part of life and strive to form positive associations with it by using it to drive progress towards a better future.
• My experience has taught me that true partnerships should be built on mutual support and respect; starting off by tearing each other down is not a foundation for a healthy working relationship.
• It's crucial to stay committed even on off days; pushing through and meeting my obligations makes me feel proud and turns a potentially bad day into a success.
• Reflecting on my journey, I see that it's not about appearing invincible but about being authentically human, which includes acknowledging bad days and managing them effectively.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting by setting clear boundaries. When you're super busy, like with a big project or launch, say no to anything not related to that big goal. Focus on what's most important first.

When you're feeling down or overwhelmed, take a deep breath and keep working hard. Remember, even if it's your birthday or a special day, take care of your main tasks first. Work first, then you can have fun after.

It's super important to be nice to everyone, even when you're feeling stressed. If you accidentally snap at someone, say you're sorry right away. Being respectful matters, so make sure to apologize if you need to.

Sometimes when you're stressed, you might not want to tell everyone. That's okay. You don't have to share all your stress if it could make others worried too. Just deal with it quietly and keep the team focused and happy.

Having a couple of great friends or helpers is super helpful. They can back you up when things get crazy. Make sure to have a support system you can count on.

Take care of yourself. If making podcasts or videos feels like too much when you're busy, it's okay to skip them. Look after your health and well-being first.

Understand that feeling anxious is normal. Try to think of it as something that can help you move forward, not just make you feel bad.

Building strong partnerships is all about support and respect. Don't put each other down; lift each other up instead.

Commit to doing your best, even on bad days. Working through hard times can make you feel proud and turn a bad day into a win.

Remember it's okay to be human. You don't have to seem perfect all the time. It's alright to have tough days and just do your best to handle them well.

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"You have to say no to everything until this book launch is done"

– Leila Hormozi

"Acting stressed at somebody else doesn't help at all"

– Leila Hormozi

"I think that true Partners build each other up"

– Leila Hormozi

"I've just found that it actually doesn't help me"

– Leila Hormozi

"A lot of good can come from bad days"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

like I feel like piece of [ __ ] the worst day I've had in six months you have to say no to everything until this book launch is done I was having a really bad day and it happened to be my birthday and a vlog day so what's on deck for today hair and makeup and then uh yeah go to La I'm feeling awful because I have this book launch that I took over a few weeks prior and it's so quickly grown in past anything that's like manageable for one person [ __ ] how did he get in here this is like a [ __ ] don't tell Alex I hit that Lisa Bigger Pockets anything else you looking forward to I just want to work I'm like so stressed I mean it's not like I'm not looking forward their like great podcast and they great hosts I just more like would like to just dedicate my time to making sure the stuff doesn't explode yes mean I asked that Emily add you to the call with because is I would love you to cross Trin on the system I'm not home so things are less convenient and that it's Alex's book launch and I would literally [ __ ] hate myself if I let anything happen to his book launch but I also don't know I'm literally like on the treadmill calling like three people like can you tell me if this like sounds legal and can you tell me if this is PCI Compliant so I'm doing things I don't know how to do feel like I'm on the verge of crying because I'm overwhelmed which I'm not like a crier cuz we're not a team that launches book like we have a a media department and then we have our portfolio team we don't have extra people I need I need to communicate it to the team really quick they're more important acting stressed at somebody else doesn't help at all like earlier today that person had talked to Alex but it's like I'm doing all that you need to tell everyone to come to me and I just said it rudely and he was like I would never want to piss you off and I was like [ __ ] I'm sorry I just felt like [ __ ] I immediately said I'm sorry that I was Snappy and you don't deserve for me to talk to you like that like I'm just stressed because I feel like a lot of stuff's going on in that day specifically like he had a lot going on and it was going really well for him and I didn't feel like I wanted to be like I'm having a [ __ ] awful day like the worst day I've had in like 6 months because I just felt like I don't want to steal his Joy from his great day like I don't want to be that partner for him I've always wanted to be supportive I've always wanted to make his life better and easier sweet I think it's because he's real important to me so we had also planned to be gone for like a summer trip like I don't know if you've ever gone on a vacation when you're wanting to just work but it feels worse and then I'm also leading this book launch which very quickly has become like a technical and financial nightmare just like a little more like not too C down byting means like more natural no what's [Music] up what do you want it to be like I think that's fine and so like the day that I'm trying to figure out this book want I just happen to have also two podcasts that we have to drive like 2 and 1/2 hours to and from and I have hair and makeup these are like I'm here but I can't enjoy anything because my head is elsewhere it's like exactly what I wanted yeah thank you so much the girls are just funny I sent them the picture and she just keeps messaging immediately I feel like these ladies they're these like two bad [ __ ] that just always have my back like we're ready to like go into war together it's like they've got me that's such a good feeling because I think they're like my support system when you are the one that supports the whole organization you need some people who are constantly there to like have your back and support you it's invaluable we good I'm I'm ready I've been waiting oh my God yes so Alex do you have an idea of what that might look like yeah let's go yeah I've actually intentionally wanted to get on more female podcasts because I feel like it helps me diversify my content we met when Alex did Tom bil's podcast a year ago I'll let you guys know as soon as I hear she's a really cool chick and I did the podcast because I felt like there's no way we're not going to have a good interview yeah so fun to do this oh good yay I'm glad let do this sweet you don't get rid of anxiety that's just part of life but it feels you can at least create a positive Association with it if it moves you forward and so I looked at it in that way which is like I'm going to feel like [ __ ] no matter what I feel like [ __ ] now I feel like [ __ ] changing at least one of them moves me toward a life that maybe one day doesn't feel so bad thank you so much for everything intervie was awesome oh cannot wait to share with everyone thank you you know what's weird is sometimes I feel like it was a bad interview because they ask me questions that nobody's else has asked me and I'm probably haven't thought about them or I'm not as articulate around those questions but then people like that I think CU it's newer content I think all that matters is the interviewer I think two things which is like did they prepare do they really know who that they're interviewing and are they genuinely interested in the person they're interviewing yeah I think walking into the podcast I just felt as funny the whole car right there I was like dreading it because I was like I wanted to be really excited and like well rested and stoked for this and I was like exhausted like I feel like a piece of [ __ ] I'm human I'm just like everybody else and so there's days when I don't want to be on camera because I don't feel like myself I don't feel great and I'm nervous of what people are going to think when they see that captured but I I want other people to see how I act when I'm having a bad day and he's like I think you will have a more compelling shot at doing that after the event yeah I never want someone to see me on the street and think that I look or act differently than I do on camera I think that's why I want to make content like this is because I want it to be congruent not necessarily like insult I don't think insulting you or anything but it's like I I think that that's that's a traditional amount that doesn't [ __ ] that's insane no I know there was a company that wanted us to invest and they reached out to us when we got into a conversation with them it was clear to me that they hadn't had these conversations before because when someone's never tried to negotiate a deal before usually what they do is they try to make you feel like [ __ ] so that they can get a better number for themselves this is this is the this is the struggle PC when we were talking with PC Patrick Campell I think I really wanted to call him because I wanted him to say what I was already saying to Alex which was like I don't think this should work it sounds like this doesn't fit your's current pieces I think that true Partners build each other up and if we start a relationship you know tearing each other down like what's the rest of this going to look like you have to say no to everything until this book launch is done and so I was feeling very overwhelmed I just think it was the compilation of like having so many things going on and I still get stressed knowing that there's a camera there a lot of people when they're really stressed feel like if they talk about it they'll feel better I've just found that it actually doesn't help me because I'm usually feeling emotional within an hour or two it passes and so when I'm feeling stressed throughout the day and I know that my business partner and my husband has a lot going on it's selfish for me to take away from him working on long-term objectives because of my short-term emotion there's good days and there are days like today let this Arrangement serve as a reminder that you are badass and don't forget it we love you YZ and deina you're true number one fans my assistants are like why I can do anything they're why I function and why I'm alive no seriously like I I don't know how I would get things done without them I just don't feel like doing anything there's like an illusion for people because there's so much content out there that like I do a lot of time dedicated to content but like to do two podcasts in a month is a lot for me I don't even do that many and so to have two in a day on a day that I really wanted to work it was just annoying that I had that thought in the back of my head if it happens that would be a great birthday present that that's all I I done a bunch of meetings just still like not feeling like myself and so I was worried that I wasn't going to sound good on the interview so I mean it was a good conver it very good conversation that's exciting yeah I am super excited I was trying not to think about how I was feeling when I first got into business I felt anxious all the time oh wait [ __ ] that's what I need to do hold on I just made to make sure they got my slack and I think very successful but anxious a lot of the people that I look up to just seemed like robots and I think I acted like a robot I've gotten to meet those people I've gotten to see what their lives are like and I've gotten to see that they're human just like me and they have bad days and they have days where they're pissed off and when they don't say things that are perfect and maybe they don't act in accordance with how everyone thinks they act and I don't think any less of them I just think they're [ __ ] human nice to meet you hi thank you for hi so nice to meet you to meet you how's it going hey there nice to meet you guys what was holding you back at the very beginning versus what's holding you back now in the beginning I think you lack opportunity because you have no track record you have no brand and I think as time goes on and you gain all those things there are constantly opportunities coming at you and it's like gosh which ones do I pick when they're all actually good I actually ended that day feeling good because I was proud of myself for showing up anyways day it's a great day and I was proud of myself for treating people well that day I was proud of myself for keeping my commitments and my promises to myself what what is this a lot of good can come from bad days so in hindsight it was actually kind of a good day