I Kept Beating Myself Up… Until This
Summary
- I used to beat myself up when I did something wrong or wasn't as close to someone as I wanted.
- I spent a lot of time hating myself for these shortcomings, leading to dark moments.
- I once shared my feelings with a friend at her cottage, expressing how crappy I felt about a situation.
- My friend advised me to stop wasting time on self-blame and instead focus on learning and growing from my experiences.
- Putting all my energy into self-criticism was leading me to a dead end.
- Many people might look strong on the outside but could be struggling with their inner thoughts.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing these strategies to help you shift from self-criticism to self-growth:
Recognize Self-Criticism
Acknowledge when you're hard on yourself. Notice the thoughts and moments where you're fixating on mistakes or shortcomings.
Shift Your Focus
Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?" Use those experiences to grow and improve. Focus on actionable steps you can take to move forward.
Set Quick Recovery Moments
If you find yourself in a negative thought loop, give yourself a time limit to feel those emotions. After that, shift your energy to something productive or positive.
Find a Supportive Friend
Like my friend, find someone who can provide a different perspective. Sometimes, just talking about how you feel can help reduce the weight of self-blame.
Self-Compassion Practice
Start each day with a short practice of self-compassion. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and that it's a natural part of growth.
Small Wins
Focus on achieving small, manageable goals that you can accomplish quickly. Each small win will help build confidence and reduce the tendency for self-criticism.
Journal Your Progress
Keep a journal where you track your growth and the lessons learned from mistakes. This helps you see your progress and keeps your mind focused on improvement rather than self-blame.
By applying these strategies, you can use your energy more effectively, leading to personal growth and better outcomes in your business or personal life.
Full Transcript
I was still beating myself up if I did something wrong if I wasn't as close to somebody else as I wanted to be I just spent all this time just hating myself for it honestly like I I can get pretty dark and then you know I was sitting with my friend one day we were actually at her Cottage and I told her I was like I just feel so crappy that this happened and she was like okay and so what are you going to do and I was like well I'm going to do this she's like all right well you shouldn't waste so much time beating yourself up over it because all that time you're taking beating yourself up over it you could be taking to learn and grow into doing this new thing and achieving that and I was like oh that makes a lot of sense like I'm taking all of this energy and putting it into something that takes me to a dead end a lot of us can be very strong on the outside but we might actually be victims of our own minds
