I Love Comparison
Summary
- Comparing ourselves to others isn't inherently bad; it's actually a useful tool for understanding our position relative to our goals.
- The real issue and what robs us of joy is the negative judgment we attach to the comparison.
- For example, recognizing someone is faster than me by 2 seconds is simply observing reality.
- But if I then conclude that I am inadequate because of that fact, that's when the negative impact occurs.
- It's critical to separate factual comparisons from negative self-judgments in order to maintain a healthy perspective.
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How To Take Action
A good way of doing this is to start by focusing on what you are good at. When you see someone else doing great, remember, it's like a measuring stick. It shows you where you are compared to where you want to be. So, if someone is better at something, think of it as a fact, not a bad thing. Like, "Wow, they are amazing at this, and I can be too!" It's important to learn from that and set a goal to get better.
It's smart to avoid feeling down by not thinking you are bad at something. So if someone is two seconds faster than you in a race, don't say, "I'm slow" or "I'm not good enough." Just say, "They are two seconds faster, and I'm going to work hard to catch up!” This way, you focus on getting better without feeling bad.
Also, make a list of things you want to get better at. Pick the ones that won't take much time or money first. Maybe you can practice more, find free resources online, or ask someone to help you.
If you start feeling down, stop and think about what you're saying to yourself. Are you just looking at facts, or are you being too hard on yourself? Remember, it's okay to see others doing well. Let it inspire you to do well too, not make you feel bad. That's how you grow without losing your joy.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
"Comparison is a measuring stick it's just how you see the Delta between where you are and where you want to be"
– Alex Hormozi
"The thief of joy is the Judgment that we make on that comparison"
– Alex Hormozi
"If I say someone's 2 seconds faster me at the race it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with that"
– Alex Hormozi
"I'm stating facts"
– Alex Hormozi
"Judgment is the thief of joy"
– Alex Hormozi
Full Transcript
everyone's heard comparison is the thief of joy and I think that's total BS because comparison is a measuring stick it's just how you see the Delta between where you are and where you want to be and the thief of joy is the Judgment that we make on that comparison so if I say someone's 2 seconds faster me at the race it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with that I'm stating facts the problem is if I say that person's 2 seconds faster than me and therefore I suck the second part of the statement is where you get in trouble not the comparison itself and so judgment is the thief of joy