I Would Rather Be Alone (ft. @leilahormozi)

Summary

• I would rather be by myself than be with someone who makes me less like who I truly am.
• It's important to ask if being with someone makes it easier or harder to reach your goals.
• People aren't necessarily bad if they make things harder for you; it’s about their traits and how they affect you.
• Think about what traits a person has that you admire because those traits can rub off on you.
• If you're around patient people, you might become more patient, and that's a good thing.
• Being around empathetic people can make you more empathetic, which can also help you reach your goals.
• Be aware that you might absorb everything from someone, not just the good traits but possibly things that make you weaker.
• Weaker means being less likely to achieve what you want or become who you want to be.
• People often struggle with this because they fear being alone.
• The first step might be to become comfortable with being alone.

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How To Take Action

Embrace Solitude

A good way to start is by learning to be comfortable being alone. Spend some time each day without any distractions or people to see if you enjoy your own company. This can help you grow and understand yourself better.

Evaluate Relationships

Next, assess your relationships. Think about the people you spend the most time with. Do they make it easier or harder for you to reach your goals? If someone’s presence makes you act less in line with who you truly are or want to be, consider limiting your time with them.

Seek Inspiring Traits

Identify traits in others that you admire and wish to develop. For example, if you want to be more patient, spend time with people who exemplify this quality. Let their patience influence you positively.

Balance Influences

Remember, while you can absorb good traits, you can also pick up negative ones. Stay mindful of which influences you’re letting in. Balance the positive by staying aware of behaviors that might make you less likely to achieve your goals.

Face the Fear of Loneliness

If you struggle with being alone, take small steps to overcome this fear. Journal, meditate, or go for walks by yourself. These activities can help you build a strong foundation of inner confidence.

By focusing on these steps, you can create an environment that supports your personal and professional growth while staying true to who you are or want to be.

Full Transcript

I would rather be with just me than be with someone who makes me less like me in order to be with them I think the question that people need to ask themselves is does this person make it easier or harder to achieve my goals and it doesn't mean that they're actively trying to sabotage you and it doesn't mean they're a bad person no I think it's also the um what traits about this person do I admire cuz whatever they have is going to rub off on me I know that I need to be more patient and so you having patience is like yeah if I had some of that rub off I mean that'd be a good thing hey if was a little more empathetic that would probably rub off that' probably be a good thing that probably increase the likelihood that hit my goals but you may not only take in that which makes you stronger you may just take in everything and that may end up making you weaker when I say weaker I mean less likely to achieve the things that you want or become the person that you want to become I think it's very hard for people because everyone is just so afraid of being alone and I think maybe the first step is being okay with being alone