If You Want to Be a Different Person…

Summary

• I believe it's important not to dwell on the past as a source of our present behavior; if we say "I'm like this because…", we surrender our power to change.
• We should acknowledge our current actions without tying them to unchangeable past events.
• To change our behavior, we need to focus on rewarding ourselves for adopting new actions in the present.
• Instead of blaming the unchangeable, we should take responsibility for what we can alter right now.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting by not thinking about your past mistakes too much. When you say "I do this because something happened," you let your past control you. But if you just look at what you do now, you can change it easier.

You should also stop saying things like "I can't change because of my past." Instead, say "I'm in charge of what I do now." This way, you get the power to make things different.

If there's something you want to change about yourself, you don't need a big reason from the past. Just give yourself a little prize when you do the new thing you want to do. This helps make the new action stick.

So, for instance, if you want to save money, don't think "I'm bad with money because I never learned." Just start by saving a little bit, and then give yourself a treat for doing it.

Remember, it's all about taking small steps and being nice to yourself when you do the right thing now. Forget about blaming stuff that happened before. It's all about what you choose to do today.

Quotes by Alex Hormozi

"I do these things period if I want to change what I do then I should just reward myself in the present for doing something different"

– Alex Hormozi

"You actually put all the power into something that is unchangeable in the past"

– Alex Hormozi

"If you want to be a different person because you don't like the person you are right now"

– Alex Hormozi

"You don't need to blame the things that you can't change"

– Alex Hormozi

"Blame the you can't"

– Alex Hormozi

Full Transcript

I like to clean things I'm a labeler I'm a whatever because my mom never loved me enough because I didn't get enough hugs because I gave a speech once and everyone laughed at me by giving these because statements you actually put all the power into something that is unchangeable in the past and so you have to keep dealing with it whereas if you just said I do these things period if I want to change what I do then I should just reward myself in the present for doing something different and so if you want to be a different person because you don't like the person you are right now then you don't need to blame the things that you can't change but you blame the you can't