If Your Partner Does This…

Summary

• I once had an employee who loved working at our company, but she eventually quit because her husband gave her an ultimatum.
• Her husband, influenced by his negative work experiences, convinced her that loving her job was somehow bad.
• It was heartbreaking to see her potential wasted because she listened to someone who acted like an adversary in that moment.
• She still messages me, saying she wishes she still worked with us.
• This situation taught me that those close to us can have immense influence, sometimes even leading us away from what's best for us.
• It's crucial to recognize when someone is negatively impacting your happiness and career, even if they are loved ones.
• Always think critically about advice given by others, especially if it means giving up something that truly brings you joy.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing a few straightforward strategies to maintain your joy and protect your career from negative influences.

First, identify trusted advisors. List the people whose opinions you value. Ensure they give you constructive feedback and aren't pushing their own negative experiences onto you. Surround yourself with people who celebrate your successes.

Next, practice self-awareness. Regularly reflect on your feelings about your job and personal achievements. If you start feeling swayed negatively, pause and ask yourself where these feelings are coming from and if they are based on facts or someone else’s bias.

A good way of doing this is by journaling. Spend a few minutes each day writing down what you enjoyed about your day. This helps reinforce your own perspective and makes you more resilient to outside negativity.

Another key strategy is to set clear boundaries. Communicate respectfully with loved ones about the importance of your work and how it contributes to your happiness. Be firm about your choices and explain calmly how their negative comments affect you.

Lastly, seek external support when needed. Join communities or online forums where like-minded individuals share positive stories and professional advice. This can provide a balanced view and reinforce your confidence in your decisions.

By implementing these steps, you'll be better equipped to protect your happiness and career from negative influences, even when they come from close loved ones.

Full Transcript

I had a woman who worked for me and she had worked at all these companies before that sucked her husband also had jobs like that and so they would just come home every night they had a ton of hobbies they did together so she joined our company and she was like wow this is the first time that I'm like I love where I work it took her away from her husband and so what ended up happening over time is that he basically gave her an ultimatum he was like this job is not good for you he started speaking into her that somehow that was bad to like where you worked and I you not she quit and it was like the most heartbreaking thing I ever saw because this woman had so much potential and she still messages me to this day and talks about how she wish she still worked there this person who you've let into your life and has so much influence over you literally did what an enemy would do yes let me just take away the thing that you finally found that you love