It Takes as Long as You Want It To…

Summary

• I once heard that it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them, but a wise therapist told me that's not true. It takes as long as you decide it does. You could choose to be over it by a specific day, like Thursday, for example.

• Dwelling on words like "heartbreak" only makes it harder to move on. Your heart isn't actually broken; you're just not with that person anymore.

• It's important to remember that you'll eventually find someone else and likely forget about this person in a few years. Instead of focusing on the past, look forward to new opportunities.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing a mindset shift when dealing with emotional setbacks, whether in business or personal life. Instead of focusing on how long it takes to recover, decide on a date to move on. This way, you take control rather than letting emotions linger. Pick a day, like Thursday, and commit to feeling better by then.

A good way to change your perspective is to be mindful of the language you use. Instead of saying you're "heartbroken" or "devastated," describe the situation accurately: you’re simply moving on from a stage in your life. Words have power, and using realistic language helps you process emotions quicker.

Also, focus on the future. When facing challenges, remind yourself that better opportunities await. Visualize where you want to be in a few years and channel your energy into those dreams. This positive outlook can motivate you to take action.

Lastly, practice gratitude and reflection. Spend a few minutes each day acknowledging what you have and the progress you're making. This keeps you grounded and focused on positives rather than past losses.

These strategies require little time or money and offer a significant emotional payoff, helping you move forward with clarity and purpose.

Full Transcript

I was in a relationship and then I went to a therapist and she was probably like the only good therapist I've ever seen and I remember I said like you know I just feel really sad because I'm not with this person anymore and I heard it takes half the time that you're with somebody to get over somebody she was like I think that's stupid and I was like stupid and I remember she was like I think takes as long as you want it to Lea I was like okay so what does that mean she's like how about Thursday and I was like what she's like yeah how about by Thursday you're over it and I was like what does that mean she's like we stop talking about it and you move on so many people they use words like heartbreak I am heartbroken I I feel like a part of me has died it's like no your heart has not broken you are no longer in a relationship with somebody and the reality is you're going to find somebody else and forget about them in five years