Make Better Friends
Summary
- If you don't have friends that help you grow, it's alright to be alone for a while.
- Use time alone to focus on improving yourself instead of socializing.
- Bettering yourself increases the chances of attracting friends who are good for you.
- If you're not a positive influence, successful people won't want to be your friends.
- Friendships need to be equal; if one person takes more than they give, it leads to resentment.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest starting by taking some time for yourself, especially if you feel like your current friends aren't helping you grow. It’s okay to be on your own for a bit. Use that time to improve who you are. Work on skills, read books, or learn new things. This is how you increase your value.
A good way of doing this is by setting daily or weekly goals for self-improvement. For example, you could pick a new book to read each month, or practice a skill you're trying to get better at for an hour each day. Stay consistent!
Remember, successful people want to be around others who are positive and hardworking. So, think about the kind of friend you'd like to have and try to be that person yourself. Are you kind? Do you listen? Make sure you're someone who brings good things to a friendship.
And friendships should be fair – try to give as much as you take. This might mean helping a friend with a project or just being there when they need to talk. It’s important because if one person always takes more, the other person might start feeling unhappy.
So, if you’re looking for better friendships or wanting to grow as a person, take a step back and focus on yourself for a while. Improve and be the sort of person others want to be around. When you do make new friends, make sure to treat them right, so you both are happy. It's the little steps that make a big difference.
Quotes by Leila Hormozi
"I took that time that I would have been hanging out with people and I just poured it into being better"
– Leila Hormozi
"eventually I will attract the friends I want"
– Leila Hormozi
"if you're a dirt bag you're not going to be friends all these successful people"
– Leila Hormozi
"you are a punishing experience for them"
– Leila Hormozi
"it feels like oh they take more than they give"
– Leila Hormozi
Full Transcript
people always ask how do I get around people that are better for me I didn't have anybody for a while why because I was in a weird transitional period I wasn't relating to these people and I didn't yet relate to these people and so there were a couple years where I barely had any friends and that's okay because during that time I took that time that I would have been hanging out with people and I just poured it into being better eventually I will attract the friends I want if you're a dirt bag you're not going to be friends all these successful people why because you are a punishing experience for them you bring them down so until you find friends that you have an equal exchange it's really hard to have a friendship because then it turns into resentment it feels like oh they take more than they give
