Make Your Spouse Like You More Not Less

Summary

• The first few years of any relationship are tough, but it's important to stick it out and support each other through the tough times.
• When we're not feeling good, sometimes we just hold each other tightly until we both feel calm and relaxed.
• It takes years to really learn and understand your partner and how to communicate effectively with them.
• You can rely on past experiences to guide you in resolving current issues by remembering what worked before.
• The goal should always be to strengthen the relationship with each interaction, even when you're upset.
• When mending conflicts, aim to do it in a way that makes you like each other more, not less.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing a few strategies from these insights that can really make a big difference with little cost.

Stick it Out: The first few years in any relationship, whether personal or professional, are tough. Understand that it's normal to face challenges early on. When difficult times come, remind yourself that this is a part of the growth process and it's important to support each other.

Calm Together: When you're not feeling good, find a way to physically or emotionally hold onto each other until you both feel calmer. This could be as simple as taking a deep breath together or sharing a quiet moment. These practices don’t take much time but can be very powerful.

Reflect on Past Successes: Keep a mental or written note of past experiences that helped resolve issues effectively. Next time a similar issue arises, recall what worked before. This kind of reflection is low-cost and can be done quickly but offers high value in problem-solving.

Strengthen with Each Interaction: Make it a goal to strengthen your relationship with every interaction, even when you’re upset. Pause and ask yourself, "How can I resolve this so that we both like each other more afterward?" This mindset shift costs nothing but can drastically improve your relationship.

Effective Communication: Spending time to genuinely understand and communicate with one another is essential. Practicing active listening and open, honest dialogue can solve many conflicts and requires just a bit of extra time and intention.

Following these small, manageable steps can help you build stronger, more supportive relationships with little cost and significant rewards.

Full Transcript

the first few years are hard if we're not feeling good about stuff we will just like I I'm not even kidding we'll just like grit it and we'll just grab each other and just just hold on until you feel each other relax it's like having a partner of anything it just takes years to learn somebody to understand how to communicate all those things and so now we can recall on past experiences enough to be like this has happened before this is what we did that worked the intention is to make the relationship stronger with every interaction not weaker so if we're upset with each other then we're going to try and mend it in a way that makes us both like each other more not less