Perfect is Impossible
Summary
- Trying to be perfect is impossible and can make you less likable.
- Focus on being yourself rather than what others want you to be.
- I've tried to be the perfect leader, wife, and friend, but realized it’s better to be genuine.
- Accept that sometimes you won’t meet everyone’s expectations, and that's okay.
- It's natural to sometimes not be the best daughter or friend; it's part of being human.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing self-acceptance practices into your daily life. Start by reminding yourself that perfection is impossible and that trying to be perfect can actually make you less likable. You don't have to meet everyone’s expectations. Write down a list of your core values and focus on aligning your actions with those, not what others want you to be.
A good way of doing this is by setting boundaries. For example, decide how much time to spend on work versus family or friends, based on what matters most to you. It's okay if you can't always be the perfect friend or family member. Remember, being human means sometimes not meeting these expectations.
Another thing to try is mindfulness. Spend a few minutes each day reflecting on who you truly are and what your goals are. Mindfulness can help you become more genuine and self-aware, reducing the urge to be what others want.
Lastly, practice gratitude for your imperfections. When you find yourself slipping into old habits of striving for perfection, pause and find one thing you appreciate about your unique personality. This reinforces that it's okay not to be perfect and helps build self-love.
