Stop Blaming The Past…
Summary
- When you blame your past for present issues, like not being close to a significant other due to family relationships, you're giving power to something you can't change.
- Focus on what's happening now, which you can change, rather than on past events.
- It's more useful to acknowledge past struggles without attributing them to a specific cause, especially if you're not certain of it.
- By acknowledging the current challenge, like difficulty in forming close relationships, without linking it to past events, you make changing your behavior easier.
- Concentrate on identifying what it takes to succeed in your current goal, like getting closer to someone, and work on those steps directly.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest focusing on the present and what you can change. If you're struggling with something, like getting close to someone, don't blame your past. It's not about what happened with your family or anything else before. That's giving power to things you can't fix.
Instead, let's concentrate on what's happening right now. If you're finding it tough to build close relationships, just say, "In the past, I've had trouble getting close to people." You don't need to know exactly why it happened. The key thing is, you know you've had this challenge.
Here's the deal: when you stop linking your past to your current goals, changing your behavior gets easier. To move forward, you've got to figure out the steps that lead to success in whatever you want to achieve. Want to get closer to someone? Identify what it takes, the specific actions you need to take, and focus on those.
For instance, if your goal is to build a stronger relationship, start by improving your communication skills. Listen more, ask questions, and be genuinely interested in the other person. Maybe read a book on relationships, or practice small acts of kindness. It's all about those little steps that make a big difference.
Remember, don't get caught up in the why's of the past. Concentrate on the how's of today. That's how you'll make real progress in your business, personal growth, or relationships.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
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Full Transcript
if you said I have trouble getting close to girls because my mom and I aren't close you give power to something that happened in the past that you can't change to things that are happening in the present that you can change and so wouldn't it be more useful to say in the past I have struggled to get close to girls period now that could be for a number of reasons thing is is that you don't know what reason it is all we know is that you struggle to get close to girls well then just look at what it would take to get close to girls and then do that rather than having this other thing that's attached to the behavior that you can't do anything about it just makes changing who you are and what you do a lot easier
