Stop Trying to Be Happy…
Summary
- When you focus too much on being happy, you end up thinking about yourself all day, which is not useful.
- Try this for a month: stop trying to be happy. Accept that you might be unhappy and be okay with it.
- Shift your focus from your own happiness to being useful to other people.
- By concentrating on tasks and helping others, you'll likely find that you feel much better overall.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing the idea of shifting your focus from your own happiness to being useful to others. Here’s how you can do it easily and effectively:
Stop Focusing on Happiness: For the next month, stop trying to force yourself to be happy. Accept that it’s okay to feel unhappy sometimes. This change in mindset alone can be freeing and reduce the mental burden you place on yourself.
Be Okay with Feelings: Acknowledge your feelings without letting them control your actions. Tell yourself it's okay to be unhappy but still take the actions you need to take.
Help Others: Start small. Look for opportunities to help people in your immediate circle, whether it’s offering advice, lending a hand, or even just listening. Being there for others shifts your focus away from your own unhappiness.
Engage in Tasks: Instead of dwelling on how you feel, immerse yourself in work or hobbies that allow you to be productive. Set small, manageable goals each day. This can increase your sense of accomplishment and indirectly improve your mood.
Reflect Weekly: At the end of each week, take a moment to reflect on how shifting your focus has affected your overall mood and productivity. Adjust your approach as needed based on these reflections.
By paying more attention to tasks and helping others rather than obsessing over your own happiness, you’ll likely find that you feel better and more fulfilled. This approach doesn’t require much money or time—just a shift in perspective and some small, daily actions.
Full Transcript
I have a friend who's single and struggles because he's not happy successful but not happy and so he obsesses on happiness and I was like do you know that when you obsess on happiness all you do is think about you all day you're just thinking about you all day how useless try this on for a month say that you're going to stop trying to be happy just give up on it just like just stop thinking about it like I'm not you know what I'm actually okay with being unhappy I'm fine with it I'm still here and so then you can take action despite your lack of happiness and think okay how can I be useful to other people I think if you do that you'll actually start focusing on the tasks and on people outside of yourself and you'll be amazed at how much better you feel overall
