Tell Them What You Like
Summary
When giving feedback, focus on what you want someone to do next time, not just what they did wrong.
I learned this from my personal experience with Alex and my nails. Instead of asking what he didn’t like, I asked what he would prefer.
By asking for future preferences, you make expectations clear and actionable.
This approach shifts feedback from being critical to being constructive and forward-looking.
Always try to understand what the other person likes, so you can meet their expectations better.
Clear and positive communication is key to improving any relationship or task.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing feedback that focuses on what someone should do next time, rather than just pointing out what they did wrong. This way, you make your expectations clear and actionable. For example, if you run a small business and an employee makes a mistake, instead of saying, "You did this wrong," try saying, "Next time, I would like you to do it this way."
Think about preferences and make it a habit to ask what the other person would prefer in the future. This clears up confusion and makes it easier for everyone to understand what is expected. For instance, if a client doesn’t like your service, ask them what they would prefer next time. This turns the feedback into something constructive and forward-looking.
Also, always aim to understand what the other person likes or prefers. If you are in a partnership or a business, this can help you meet expectations better and improve your relationships. For example, if you’re an entrepreneur working directly with customers, ask them about their preferences upfront so you can tailor your product or service to meet their expectations better.
Clear and positive communication is key to improving relationships and tasks. This doesn’t take much time or money but can have high value. For instance, a quick feedback form asking for future preferences can help improve customer satisfaction.
Shift your feedback approach to be more focused on future actions. Instead of criticizing what went wrong, discuss what can be done next time to make things right. This method is simple and can easily be implemented to bring high value to personal growth and business practices.
Full Transcript
so have you ever told somebody what they did wrong and wondered why they didn't do it right next time you're like I said what you did wrong but then he didn't do what I wanted him to do you told him what you didn't like you didn't tell him what you did like for example for like the first I want to say like four years of my relationship with Alex I get my nails done and I would be like what do you think and he'd be like what's for breakfast again and I was like what the it's like every time I would show my nails it'd be something like Chrome he'd be like I could just see by his face it's like he's just trying to avoid the question he didn't want to punish me but he also didn't want to tell me he liked it because he didn't like it so finally I was like what would you like me to do and he was like always get French that's it he's like yes so what have I done now I always get my Dani his French because I asked him what do I do next time rather than what do you not like I know it's a silly example but it's true so here's what we want to start doing we want to go and shift from feedback that focuses on the past to feedback that focuses on we want someone to do next in the future
