The Best Way to Argue
Summary
- When disagreeing with someone, stick to stating the facts about what you see and what you think should happen.
- Avoid mixing in your feelings with the facts during discussions about decisions.
- Presenting just the facts, perspectives, knowledge, and information leads to better decision-making in an organization.
- Including your feelings can make others anxious about causing upset, which hinders good decision-making.
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How To Take Action
When disagreeing with someone, I would suggest being clear and sticking to the facts. It's super important to separate what you know from what you feel. This means when you're talking about something you wanna change or don't agree with, tell the person what you're seeing and what you think should happen. This keeps things clear and helps everyone make better choices.
Avoid adding in your feelings when you're talking about important stuff. If you start saying how you feel, it can make others worried about upsetting you. That's not good, 'cause it can stop people from making smart decisions.
So, when you're in a meeting or chat with someone and you gotta disagree, here's what to do:
- Take a moment to think about what the facts are.
- Be sure you understand what should happen next.
- Share your thoughts without your feelings getting mixed in.
Just remember, presenting only the facts and what you know helps everyone think clearer and makes sure you all can decide the best thing to do without worry about hurting feelings. It's not about being cold, it's all about being smart and making sure the decisions are the best they can be!
Quotes by Leila Hormozi
"The best way to disagree with somebody is to state the facts"
– Leila Hormozi
"State the facts of what you see"
– Leila Hormozi
"State the facts of what you think should happen"
– Leila Hormozi
"A lot of times what we do is state the facts plus our feelings"
– Leila Hormozi
"If you sprinkle in how you feel about something, they're now having anxieties about making someone else feel bad"
– Leila Hormozi
Full Transcript
the best way to disagree with somebody is to State the facts State the facts of what you see State the facts of what you think should happen a lot of times what we do is State the facts plus our feelings well I think I feel I really try to remove those when I'm having a discussion about a decision there's the facts there are perspectives there's the knowledge we have the information but if you sprinkle in how you feel about something they're now having anxieties about making someone else feel bad pissing someone else off it actually creates worse decision- making in an organization
