The Biggest Lesson From My Mom

Summary

• Observing my mother's struggles after my parents' divorce taught me the importance of independence.
• I saw how adverse circumstances can break someone down physically and mentally if they allow it.
• My mother's dependency on others, especially in relationships, highlighted for me the dangers of not being self-sufficient.
• My fear of becoming like my mother pushed me to reflect on my own habits and traits.
• I recognize that I share many qualities with my mother, but I consciously choose to use them to improve my life.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest focusing on building independence. Start with small steps. Like if you notice you always ask for help before trying, next time try to solve the problem yourself first. See how it feels to rely on yourself. You'll learn a lot!

Remember how my mom depended on others? Don't let that be you. You can learn from this. Reflect on your relationships. Do you lean on people for things you could do alone? Try doing those things yourself. You'll feel stronger.

Next, identify what traits you have that might hold you back. Are you letting bad habits control your life? Maybe you're always late or you spend too much on things you don't need. Admit these things to yourself. Then, change them, one by one. Replace them with good habits.

The goal? Use what you learn from your past to make your future better. If you see yourself falling into a pattern you don't like, take action! The best part is this doesn't cost money and doesn't take a lot of time. It just takes willingness to be honest with yourself and to work at it every day.

Here's the plan:

• Do one thing each day that makes you more independent.
• Check your habits. Pick one you don't like and work on changing it for a week.
• Ask yourself how you're like the people you know. Use the good parts to improve your life, and work to change the parts that could drag you down.

Keep at it, and you'll be amazed at how you grow!

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"I've just chosen to use them to better my life and she allowed them to make her life worse"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

from a young age just like being in a house when I grew up where I watched my mother when my parents got divorced go from this like strong woman who was like a great mother to me to just allowing the circumstances to just continuously break her down mentally physically she ended up being so dependent even just having like a boyfriend I remember the day she moved out of one of her boyfriend's houses she had to get the new one to move her into his house because she couldn't even be alone I was just so scared of being anything like her but I realized that I do have a lot of habits inclinations personality traits that she had I've just chosen to use them to better my life and she allowed them to make her life worse