The Cycle of F’s In a Relationship

Summary

• If your friends are constantly fighting and then making up, it's a sign of an unhealthy cycle.
• When friends stop complaining to you about their spouse, it often means they've reconciled but might feel embarrassed.
• It's important to have the courage to assess whether a relationship is truly right for you.
• Ask yourself if your relationship is helping you achieve your goals.
• Consider how much time and energy the drama in your relationship is taking away from your personal aspirations.
• It's crucial to honestly evaluate how your relationship impacts your life's direction and success.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest taking a close look at the relationships around you, including friendships. Notice if there's a pattern of fighting and making up often. This could be a sign that things aren't as healthy as they should be.

When a friend stops telling you about problems with their spouse, it might mean they've made up. They could be feeling a little embarrassed about the complaints they shared. Remember, it's normal for folks to have ups and downs, but if it’s a constant cycle, that's different.

Think about being brave enough to ask yourself some tough questions. Is your relationship a help or a hindrance to your dreams? Do the fights and make-ups steal time you could use for reaching your goals? It’s super important to be honest with yourself about this.

Here’s what you can do:

1. Pay attention to how much energy your relationships drain from you. Does drama take away from your goals?
2. Sit down and write out your main goals. Then, make a list of ways your relationship either helps or hurts your progress.
3. If you find there’s more hurt than help, it's time to have a heart-to-heart. Talk with your friend or partner about the pattern you've noticed and how it's affecting your life.

Being honest about the impact of your relationships can be tough, but think of it as an investment in your happiness and success. If a relationship isn't helping you move forward, it's okay to rethink how it fits into your life. Remember, your dreams are super important, and the people in your life should cheer you on, not hold you back.

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"Is this relationship helping you achieve your goals"

– Leila Hormozi

"How much of your life and of the time you could have put towards your goals has been stolen by the drama of this relationship"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

you fight you you forget I had a couple friend that were married and that was the exact cycle they went through they'd be getting along really well and then eventually one of them would do sign to piss each other off they start talking about how they think they're going to break up I get both of them calling me they're both complaining about each other endlessly and then I wouldn't get a text from either of them like 5 days so I knew that meant was they got back together and they were embarrassed that they ever complained about each other to me and they'd go right back into a fight again finally the husband worked up the courage to understand that that relationship wasn't for him and part of it I think was a lot of what we talked about one of the first first questions I asked him was is this relationship helping you achieve your goals how much of your life and of the time you could have put towards your goals has been stolen by the drama of this relationship and I think a lot of people don't ask themselves those questions