The Lonely Path…
Summary
- When you're growing personally or professionally, there's a lonely transition period where you might not fit in with your old friends but haven't yet connected with a new circle that aligns with your ambitions.
- It's a common experience for anyone who has achieved significant success to go through this phase of isolation.
- Persistence is key during this time—you have to keep moving forward despite feeling alone.
- Find and engage with communities related to your goals. Look for individuals who contribute value and reach out to connect with them.
- Identify the "givers" in these communities. These are the people who consistently contribute and go the extra mile.
- Givers tend to recognize and appreciate other givers, so there's a mutual understanding and respect.
- Start by offering value and support to others who are in the position you aspire to be in.
- Even if most of the people you help don't reciprocate, the effort is worth it for the connections and returns you will eventually receive from the few that do.
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How To Take Action
A good way of dealing with that lonely middle period when growing is to keep pushing forward. It may feel tough, but everyone who's made it big has gone through this too. Here's how:
First, find groups that share your goals, like professional networks or online communities. Dive into those spaces. Look for the folks who are always helping others and offering advice—these are the givers. They're the ones to watch and learn from.
Next, reach out and connect with them. Offer your own help with no expectation of getting something back right away. Think about it this way: if you support 10 people, and even just one helps you back, that's a win. Most folks might not return the favor, but the game is worth it for those who will.
You want to stick with your mission and give more than you take. This builds trust and relationships. Plus, the more you give, cool things start to happen. You'll become a giver, and other givers will start to notice you. That's when you start fitting into the new group you're aiming to join.
So my suggestions are:
- Find the right communities related to your growth.
- Look for the givers in these communities.
- Offer help and value without expecting a return right away.
- Keep moving forward, even when it's tough.
Remember, it's the long game. Give plenty, stick with it, and you'll make it to where you want to be.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
"You're too big for the old friend group but you're not quite big enough for the group that you want to get into"
– Alex Hormozi
"Every single person who's accomplished anything material has been in your exact same shoes"
– Alex Hormozi
"You just keep going"
– Alex Hormozi
"Givers recognize givers almost immediately"
– Alex Hormozi
"If you just start by giving to a whole bunch of people who are where you want to be, you'll get more back"
– Alex Hormozi
Full Transcript
there is this lonely period that always happens when you start growing because it happens is that you're too big for the old friend group but you're not quite big enough for the group that you want to get into so you kind of have this path in the Middle where you just kind of like keep trudging along but like every single person who's accomplished anything material has been in your exact same shoes and you just keep going you go into the communities you see the people who are adding value to those communities and you message them you find the givers cuz givers recognize givers almost immediately you can see the people who are always giving more above and beyond and you can understand they get the game but if you just start by giving to a whole bunch of people who are where you want to be you'll get more back even if nine out of 10 don't give you anything back
