The Only Way to Trust Yourself

Summary

• When starting a business, it's tough if you don't have a mentor because you haven't built trust in yourself yet.
• You need time and experience to show that you can trust your own decisions.
• Early in your journey, you might only have one or two instances where you trusted yourself and felt confident.
• For example, I have 45 instances where I knew I had my own back and made good decisions.
• People often seek mentors because they want reassurance until they can trust themselves.
• Until you build self-trust, you'll keep looking for reassurance from others.

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How To Take Action

Implementation Strategies for Small Businesses and Entrepreneurs

Build Self-Trust Over Time

I would suggest implementing small, daily decisions in your business to build self-trust. Start by setting small, achievable goals, and make decisions on how to accomplish them. Over time, these small instances will accumulate, and you'll have more confidence in your decision-making abilities.

Reflect on Past Successes

A good way of boosting self-trust is by reflecting on your past successes, even the small ones. Write down every instance where you made a good decision and succeeded. Regularly reviewing this list can remind you that you have what it takes to make the right calls.

Start with Low-Risk Decisions

Make a habit of regularly making low-risk decisions without seeking external validation. These could be things like choosing a marketing strategy for a week or deciding on small changes in your workflow. Gradually, as these decisions accumulate, you'll find your confidence growing.

Seek Feedback Strategically

Instead of constantly seeking reassurance, ask for specific feedback on areas where you genuinely need an external perspective. This helps you learn constructively without undermining your ability to trust your own judgment.

Surround Yourself with Supportive Peers

While mentors are valuable, surrounding yourself with peers who are also in the trenches can be equally beneficial. Join networking groups or online communities where you can share experiences and insights. This allows you to give and receive support on a more equal footing.

Document Your Decision-Making Processes

Keep a journal or a simple document where you record the rationale behind each decision you make. Over time, this documentation will serve as a tangible reminder of your ability to make well-thought-out decisions, helping you build trust in yourself.

By implementing these strategies, you'll gradually accumulate experiences that reinforce your self-trust, making it easier to navigate your entrepreneurial journey without constantly seeking external reassurance.

Full Transcript

when you're starting in business it's tough to not have a mentor because you don't have trust in yourself yet not because you're not trustworthy it's because you haven't had enough time or experience to accumulate enough instances where you can demonstrate that you are able to trust yourself you might only have one or two instances that you can point to where you were able to trust yourself and you knew you had your own back when me for example I have 45 instances of when I had my own back I was able to trust myself in my decision-making people who are consistently asking for Mentor what they're actually wanting is that reassurance until you build that trust within yourself you're always going to be looking for it from the outside