The Reason People Aren’t on Time

Summary

• When teaching someone to be on time, identify the underlying skill they may be lacking. Being late is often a sign of another skill deficit.
• Some people struggle with punctuality because they find it hard to say no to others or to leave meetings on time. It's important to teach them how to assertively communicate their schedules.
• For others, disorganization might be the root cause of tardiness. They may forget deadlines because they lack an effective system for organizing their tasks.
• Helping someone develop systems for organization can improve their ability to meet deadlines. Celebrating their successes when they are on time can encourage them to continue using the system.
• Understand that tardiness is not always due to disrespect but might be due to a lack of certain abilities or systems. Addressing these gaps can lead to positive changes.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest that if you’re struggling with being on time, first figure out what’s really causing the issue. Sometimes, it's not just about clocks and schedules. Maybe you're finding it hard to say no to meetings or you don't have a way to keep things organized.

A good way of dealing with saying no is by practicing assertive communication. You can start small, like politely telling someone you need to end a meeting on time. Try using a simple script, like: “I really need to wrap up because I have another commitment.” Practice this with a friend until it feels comfortable.

If disorganization is the problem, creating a simple system for yourself can make a huge difference. Begin by jotting down all your tasks in one place, like a notebook or app. Assign deadlines and review them at the start and end of each day.

Another easy step is to keep a visible calendar, either digital or on your wall, marking important dates and deadlines. Cross off days as they pass to keep your schedule clear in your mind.

Celebrate your wins! Did you manage to say no or turn in something on time? Reward yourself. Acknowledge the success to motivate you to stick with these habits.

Remember, being late doesn’t mean you’re disrespectful. By tackling the skills you may be missing, you'll see positive changes sooner than you think.