The SEASON OF NO What it Takes to Win

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The SEASON OF NO (What it Takes to Win)

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Summary

  • Warren Buffet once said really successful people say no to almost everything, which aligns with my experience of periods of growth in business, marked by what I call "seasons of no."
  • A "season of no" can last from a few months to years; my longest was three years, during which I declined social events, alcohol, and even industry gatherings that I had already paid for.
  • It's difficult to say no because it feels like rejection, but I frame it as saying yes to what matters most; achieving a big goal will keep doors open that might otherwise close.
  • Jim Watson's $50 million exit was achieved during a season of no; I find that people I've said no to in the past still reach out because of the success brought about by past focus.
  • At the end of a successful journey, most people will either still be there or new, equally valuable individuals will enter your life.
  • Yeses are like withdrawals from my personal energy account, whereas nos are deposits into my future success, likening this approach to Warren Buffet's strategy of focusing only on the top five goals and discarding the rest.
  • In following Buffet's advice, I put all my effort into the one goal that matters the most, maintaining just enough in other areas to not move backwards.
  • Steve Jobs believed in saying no to a hundred other good ideas to focus on the one that counts, and I agree that a disciplined focus on the main business goal is crucial.
  • I caution against diversifying into inefficient, one-off deals because a solid, singular focus invites more success than scattered pursuits.
  • To avoid stagnation, say no to work below your pay grade; spending time on such tasks robs focus from where you can truly add value and grow your business.
  • Family obligations are a choice, and sometimes you have to prioritize your own goals over family expectations to achieve long-term happiness and success.
  • Saying no to business contacts is tough, but it preserves time and mental capacity for your own goals, preventing multitasking inefficiencies that hinder productivity.
  • During an intense growth phase, I gave up leisure activities and made a list of sacrifices rather than a to-do list, recognizing that saying no frees up focus for essential work.
  • Emulating Jerry Seinfeld's disciplined writing routine, I create environments that allow no distractions, forcing productivity by eliminating other possible activities.
  • Changing your environment can be more effective than trying to change personal habits when aiming to modify behavior for better productivity.

How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing a "season of no," which means for a while, focus only on what's really important for growth. This could be a few months or longer. Here's what to do:

  1. Make a list of everything that's not helping you reach your big goal and start saying no to those things. Things like social gatherings, extra projects, or small favors that distract you.

  2. Think of every yes as taking energy away from you and every no as saving energy for your big goal. This will help you stay strong when you need to say no.

  3. Choose the one goal that is most important and give it all your effort. Keep other areas stable, but don't let them take too much attention away.

  1. Stop doing tasks that someone else could do or aren't worth your time. This will free you up to work on more important things that will help you grow.

  2. Remember, family is important, but sometimes you need to focus on your goals. It's not about forgetting family, but rather choosing the right times to prioritize your work.

  3. Be careful with business contacts. It might feel good to be helpful, but too many small tasks for others can distract you from your own business goals.

  1. Change your environment to help you stay focused. If you're sitting down to work, remove distractions. Make it so the only thing you can do is work.

By saying no and focusing only on what matters most, you’ll create more success and open up new opportunities. Plus, you'll likely be more productive because you're not switching between tasks. Stick to this plan, and over time, you'll find yourself getting closer to your big goal.

Quotes by Alex Hormozi

"Warren Buffett once said the difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything"

– Alex Hormozi

"You have to kind of trick your brain into thinking that the no is actually a yes to the thing that matters most"

– Alex Hormozi

"I like to think of yeses that I give to other people as withdrawals from my personal energy account and I think of nos as deposits into my gold account"

– Alex Hormozi

"Most people don't achieve the success they want because they either don't do the thing that matters most enough times, they don't do it for long enough, or they're doing the wrong thing altogether"

– Alex Hormozi

"If you say no to everything else, what's left is the work in front of you that just he's doing"

– Alex Hormozi

Full Transcript

then I would consider entering a season of no Warren Buffett once said the difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything when I look at the periods of my life in business where I've had huge amounts of growth in very short periods of time I've gone through things that I call the season of no and a season of no isn't forever but it's just for now and sometimes seasons can be three months sometimes seasons can be three years the longest season of know that I had was a three year season during that season of no I said no to friends I was a little bit extreme but I also was running from absolute poverty and I had started seeing some success and I was so afraid of messing it up that I said no to alcohol so I stopped drinking entirely I stopped saying yes to any social events I was in a paid group that I was paying like 35 000 a year to be in and I didn't go to any of the events for two years even though I paid for it a lot of people think it hurts to say no to things because it does because you feel like you're rejecting other people and most of us have been on the other side of that that and feeling rejected sucks you have to kind of trick your brain into thinking that the no is actually a yes to the thing that matters most because the way that I've always thought about this was from my first principal's perspective of if I achieve this really big thing in three years or five years all of these doors will be open for me but if I allow these onesie twosy one-off conversations one-off favors one-off things to take me away from that one big thing I know that five years from now me not having the thing makes it far less likely that even those first doors are still open they're only reaching out to me now because of the little bit of success that I've experienced which I got here because of being focused on the one thing that mattered most Jim Watson the big 50 million dollar whatever exit was built during a season of no and all the people that I said no to still hit me up but if I hadn't built that during a season of no and I had said yes to all these little things and I said no to the thing that mattered most they might not be here still hitting me up there's two scenarios that I play out in my head one is that at the end of this where you achieve something 95 of people are going to be even further behind you and so you'll still have access to them the people who were on par with you shoulder to shoulder always mutual respect you still also have access to them if for some reason someone is offended that you said no to them earlier on guess what there are other people that in this future state will walk into your life and so there's a lot of no's that I made early on that I can't even remember the door that probably permanently shut because I have so many other doors that have opened for me I like to think of yeses that I give to other people as withdrawals from my personal energy account and I think of knows as deposits into my gold account here's our Warren Buffett told people to make goals he said write down your 25 top goals in life he's a said really think about it make them in order 1 to 25 then Circle the top five tear off everything underneath and throw it away because those are the only things that matter during a season of no I put all of my effort into the one goal of those five that matters the most to me then I write down what is the minimum that I have to do to not move backwards in these ones kind of like bodybuilding you usually can only work on one weakness at a time Steve Jobs said people think Focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on but that's not what it means at all it means seeing no to a hundred other good ideas that are out there you have to pick carefully I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I have done when you think about focusing right you think well focusing is saying yes no focusing is about saying no Innovation is saying no to a thousand other good ideas there's the opportunistic yeses and no's that we have to make so the better and better your business gets the more attractive the opportunities that will present themselves and so you may have this marketing agency for example and it's doing well but then all of a sudden one of your clients is like hey man how about I give you equity in my business and you keep doing the marketing for me and then you start thinking yourself well yeah because I'm gonna make more on this deal I should do this deal but the thing is is there's so much inefficiency in this one-off or ones you choose your relationship that you lose on the main thing if you build this massive agency that's the thing that everyone's going to come to you for if you have this weird thing with two or three odd appendages from these one-off deals I'll tell you as an investor when I see that I see an undisciplined entrepreneur I see someone who cannot focus on the thing that matters most and that's why when we talk about leverage in terms of getting more for what you put in that's why being so selective on the one thing that matters most is so important because most people don't achieve the success they want because they either don't do the thing that matters most enough times they don't do it for long enough or they're doing the wrong thing altogether most plans taken to their natural end are actually pretty good so even if you had a local business that was a dry cleaning business if you did it for 40 years never got distracted I promise you that one you'd have a pretty good dry cleaning business too you'd probably have multiple locations and three you might have been able to scale Nationwide I was in the gym space for a decade so I could have gone into probably having 100 locations of my own or doing the franchise route I went the licensing route but just staying in that game for a decade straight without doing anything else and when I did do something else which is why I make these videos because it was one of my bigger mistakes I started the supplement company and I probably shouldn't have done that I probably should have kept doing the main thing there's also the no of doing work that's below your pay grade this actually happened with the portfolio company recently they have access cash flow they're making profit every month but the CEO in the short term didn't want their cash flow to go down there was this clear role that he was spending 10 to 15 hours a week on it I'm like dude that's two full days of your work week but he didn't want to give it to somebody else because it wasn't 40 hours of this week do you not think that in the two full other days you can make up for the work that you shouldn't be doing that somebody else can do and realistically they'll do it better than you because they're actually fully focused on it rather than trying to get it done you have to say no this is going to be a controversial one to family obligations we even say the word family obligation as though it's assumed and expected it's a choice it's a Family Choice I'm not saying don't talk to your family I'm saying you might not want to talk to your mom every day what you really have is a family trade-off you're going to trade getting a one-off comment or a stink eye you think you're too good for us now or Mr big shot comment for the one thing that matters most if you can't talk to me your father you got all the money but you know what you don't have you don't have no heart you ain't got two balls you have to let other people's dream of you die so that your dream can live because there's only so much of you to go around everybody else is trying to get you to be the version of you that best serves them including your family I don't think it's a malicious intention but they have goals for you that are probably not your goals for you and somebody's goals have to die and where most of them die is right in the middle which is you try and do theirs and you try and do yours and you actually accomplish neither so you might as well do a hundred percent yours do none of theirs and then actually achieve the long-term goal which they probably have is that you live a happy and successful life you only get there by saying no in the short term to get the long yes this is a big one this is business contacts and this is one of the hardest ones to say no to so you hop on the call you hop on the zoom call you take the hey got a second say you got 15. I'll show you literally I looked at my inbox let me tell you the actual words what it sounds like hey I wanted to touch base real quick about something hey I've got this opportunity I think you're going to want to take a look at let's catch up it's been a minute it's not the 10 minutes they're stealing from me it's the time that I'm thinking about what I'm gonna say before I get on the call it's what I'm thinking about after the call it's the one I wake up the next morning and I'm still thinking about someone else's business rather than my own and it's the actual cost of switching they've done a ton of research on this but basically you are like four times more productive per unit of time if you do one task rather than try and go A and B and they just did it between two tasks just asking people to go switch between task a and then do task B and they were different tasks and it took people four times as long versus just doing a and then B so when people interrupt your day think about it as they just 4X how much longer it's going to take me to get this thing done that's the real cost of saying yes to them now in the beginning if you want to hop on calls to other people because you want to provide value to them by all means do it but you're being conscious about it so if you have trouble being productive or getting the things that you want done or achieving the Big Goal then I would consider entering a season of no there was a season when I was going from six locations to ten now I ultimately talked to a mentor decided to sell my location is to turn into licensing and I was like sucks right now I was like I'm working 80 hours 100 hours a week every hour of every day I gave up football I gave up Netflix and what I started doing is writing down the things that I was willing to sacrifice for my goal rather than things that I was willing to do a lot of times people have these really big to-do lists but what I don't think people do is make really big to-do lists everybody ahead of you has the same time so if you're working all day and you're not making progress as fast as you want it means the people ahead of you it's not that they're doing things you aren't it's that you're doing things they are they're choosing to say no to more activities than you are and if you say no to everything else what's left is the work in front of you that just he's doing Jerry Seinfeld talked about how he wrote comedy he never forced himself to write but he said during the time block he wasn't allowed to do anything else but right he said I could sit there bored but I couldn't do anything else except for right it's a long time to spend on something that means absolutely nothing but that's what I do that's what people want me to do is spend a lot of time wastefully so that then I can then waste their time people aren't willing to sit for that two or three minutes and they allow themselves to get distracted and so I think one of the easiest ways to be really productive is just allow no space for anything else to occur and then what happens by default is you become productive because you have nothing else to do when I need to change a behavior I try and change the environment rather than changing myself because it's way easier to change everything else than to change you

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