There Are No Social Obligations
Summary
- There are no social obligations, only social consequences.
- If I don't join the fantasy football league, I might spend less time with the group, leading to fewer shared experiences.
- Withdrawing from such activities might mean I'm less close with those friends, as shared experiences help maintain friendships.
- It's important to ask myself if I care about these consequences in the long term.
- Consider the possibility that I might not be in touch with the same group of people in five years, which can affect my priorities now.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing a mindset shift to recognize that social obligations are actually choices with consequences. Start by identifying activities that take up a lot of your time but don't align with your long-term goals. For example, if joining a fantasy football league will cost you two to three hours a week, consider whether this time could be better spent on personal growth or business goals.
A good way of doing this is by making a list of the social activities you participate in and assessing their impact on your relationships and personal objectives. Ask yourself if these activities support where you want to be in the next five years.
Think about how not investing time in certain social activities will affect your friendships, and decide if these consequences are significant to you. Remember that people and circumstances may change; you might not even be in touch with the same group in five years.
By making these decisions, focus on what's most valuable for your progress. This is low-cost and high-value because it requires simple reflection and prioritization but can have a significant impact on aligning your actions with your goals. Long term, this will help you preserve time for what truly matters, enhancing your personal growth and business success.
Full Transcript
there is no such thing as social obligations there are only social consequences if the boys want me to be in the fantasy football league and I know that's going to take me like two or three hours a week and that's two or three hours that I don't have then me not doing fantasy football is going to have consequences and that consequence is going to be I'm probably going to be less boys with those boys because we'll have less shared context the question is do I care you may not even be friends with anybody in this room in five years