There’s Nothing Wrong With Splitting the Bill

Summary

• If you're dating someone, it's okay to have expectations about paying for dates, but you need to express them directly.
• Don't get upset if a date expects you to pay—communication about expectations goes both ways.
• Treat relationships like a team in a business; clearly define roles and what you want to avoid confusion.
• Always explain your expectations to others so they have the chance to meet them or discuss them with you.

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How To Take Action

A good way of doing things in relationships or business is to be open and honest from the start. If you are going on dates, it's important to talk about who pays for what. Don't wait and get mad later. Just tell the other person what you think before you go out. It's like being on a team – everyone should know their job.

To make this work, do these simple things:

• Think about what's fair when you go on a date. Do you want to pay all the time, take turns, or split the cost? Decide what you think is right.
• When planning a date, have a quick talk about money. You can say something like, "I was thinking we could split the dinner bill tonight, how does that sound?"
• Listen to what your date thinks, too. They might have their own ideas, and that's okay. It's all about finding what works for both of you.
• Use the same idea in business. When you work with others, tell them exactly what you expect from them. Don't guess – be clear about the job and the rules.
• If someone doesn't understand what you want, talk about it. Make sure everyone is on the same page.
• Remember, it's not wrong to want something. The problem is when you don't tell people what you want and then get upset when they don't do it.

By being clear and talking things out, you can avoid a lot of confusion and make sure everyone is happy. It's easy to do and saves a lot of trouble later on. So next time, just say what you're thinking!

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"There's nothing wrong if you want the girl to pay for half and you want to pay for half"

– Leila Hormozi

"The wrong part is when we don't express our expectations of somebody and then we expect them to uphold them anyways"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

there's nothing wrong if a guy wants you to pay for something I'll be honest I have girls that come me and they're like I can't believe that he wanted to have me pay for something and on the other side I can't tell you how many guys come to me and they're like I can't believe she just want me to pay for the date after date after date why don't they offer to pay well did you ever say that you wanted her to pay you know it's the same as if you know you have a business and you're bringing in teammates it's like well if you don't tell them what the job is and what you expect from them then how do you know that that's what they want out of the job how do you know that there's a mutual set of expectations that we're working off of there's nothing wrong if you want want the girl to pay for half and you want to pay for half the wrong part is when we don't express our expectations of somebody and then we expect them to uphold them anyways