There’s Nothing Wrong With You OR Them

Summary

• Recognize that different people value different qualities in their partners; for one person, intelligence and engaging conversations may be key, while another may prioritize physical beauty and companionship at social events.
• It's important to understand that there isn't a one-size-fits-all when it comes to relationships and what we look for in a partner.
• Self-respect can be influenced by the qualities we admire in our partners; some may feel a sense of pride with a partner whose attributes align with their personal values.
• It's not necessary for an individual to change their core attributes to match someone else's preferences; finding compatibility is about meeting someone who appreciates and respects those qualities.
• Accept that there's nothing inherently wrong with you or the person you're with if there's a mismatch in values or desires—it might just mean that you're not the right fit for each other.
• Embrace who you are, and seek relationships where both partners can gain respect and fulfillment from each other's company.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest understanding what qualities in a partner make you feel respected and happy. Think about the things that are important to you in a relationship. For example, if smart talks make you proud to be with someone, look for a partner who loves sharing ideas.

Remember that not everyone wants the same things in a partner. That's okay! You don't need to change who you are for someone else. Instead, focus on finding someone who likes you just as you are.

If you're with someone and it doesn't feel right, it's fine to accept that maybe you're just not a good match. This doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or the other person. It just means you value different things.

Celebrate the person you are. Try to find relationships where you and your partner can both be happy and feel respected for who you are. This can make both of you feel more fulfilled in the long run.

Here's what you can start doing:

• List the traits that matter to you in a partner.
• Think about how these traits align with your values.
• Don't be afraid to move on if you and your partner value different things.
• Look for someone who you feel good with because of who they are, not who you think they should be.

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"He gains respect if he has a woman of high intelligence who he can have conversations with"

– Leila Hormozi

"All he would like is a woman who looks pretty and is on his arm at all the banquets and the galas he goes to"

– Leila Hormozi

"It's not about her, she doesn't need to change"

– Leila Hormozi

"She just needs somebody who gains respect when they are with her"

– Leila Hormozi

"There's nothing wrong with her"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

say there's a guy and he's with a girl beautiful she kind of just sits around and looks pretty and he over time loses respect for himself because he gains respect if he has a woman of high intelligence who he can have conversations with there's also a guy out there who all he would like is a woman who looks pretty and is on his arm at all the Banquets and the gallets he goes to Etc it's not about her she doesn't need to change she just needs somebody who gains respect when they are with her there's nothing wrong with her just like there's nothing wrong with a person you're with there's nothing wrong with you