They Might Not Support You
Summary
- If you're seeking outside approval, realize you're compromising your integrity. Be your own witness instead.
- Don't give power over your life to others by seeking their approval.
- Instead of asking for permission from loved ones or others, seek their support.
- Be willing to accept that not everyone will support you in your decisions.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest implementing a mindset shift where you become your own source of validation. Stop seeking outside approval, which usually means compromising your integrity. A good way of doing this is by reflecting on your values and goals, and then becoming your own witness to your actions. Keep a journal where you write down your achievements and self-improvements—this helps solidify your sense of self-worth.
Next, focus on shifting your relationships from seeking approval to seeking support. When you're about to take a big step, communicate your plans confidently to your family or friends, but make it clear you're not asking for permission. Instead, directly express your need for their encouragement. Simply saying, "I really value your support as I work towards this goal," can be powerful.
Additionally, practice mental resilience by accepting that not everyone will back your decisions, and that's okay. Understand that their lack of support doesn’t define your worth or the value of your goals. Visualize scenarios where you take action without unanimous approval—this will prepare you mentally for real-life situations.
Finally, define what success means to you. Spend time clarifying this so that you know when you're on the right track, irrespective of outside opinions. This clarity can be liberating and will naturally diminish your need for other people's approval.
