This Could Ruin Someone’s Day
Summary
- It's important to be aware of how our reactions can affect others; people often mistakenly think our anger is directed at them.
- I believe in showing up neutrally and managing our emotions in our interactions.
- We shouldn't carry emotions from one meeting to another as it's unfair to others who may misinterpret these emotions as being directed at them.
- Recognize that even a single interaction can significantly impact someone's day.
- I always aim to choose actions that will positively influence someone's life rather than make it worse.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest starting each day with a moment to set your mood. Before meeting anyone, take deep breaths, think of something calming, or smile. By doing this, you can help yourself feel neutral and not let stress or anger from other stuff make your mood bad when talking to others.
When talking to someone, be aware of how you're feeling. If you're not feeling happy, take a short break before the talk to clear your head. This means if you had a tough meeting before, give yourself a little time to reset so you don't accidentally bring those hard feelings into the next meeting.
Also, understand that when you talk to someone, it can really affect their whole day. So try to listen well, be kind, and maybe even give a small compliment. This helps make sure that you're helping them have a better day, not a worse one.
Remember not to assume people know why you feel the way you do. If you're upset but it's not because of the person you're with, it's okay to say something like, "I'm a bit upset from something earlier, but it's not about you." This way, they won't think your bad mood is their fault.
Lastly, always try to choose actions that will make someone's life better. Simple things like saying thank you, holding the door for someone, or offering help can make a big difference.
So, to sum it up, try to start fresh with each interaction, know your own feelings, and aim to leave people feeling happier after they meet you. These steps don't cost anything but can mean a lot to others, and they can also make you feel good too.
Quotes by Leila Hormozi
"I think that a lot of people unintentionally punish other people by their reaction to a situation"
– Leila Hormozi
"People generalize stimulus so if I'm angry they assume it's at them"
– Leila Hormozi
"That's why I think it's so important to show up neutrally and to manage our emotions"
– Leila Hormozi
"It's not fair to other people for me to take my emotions from one meeting or instance into the next"
– Leila Hormozi
"You can make someone's life better or worse through this one interaction with them"
– Leila Hormozi
Full Transcript
I think that a lot of people unintentionally punish other people by their reaction to a situation people generalize stimulus so if I'm angry they assume it's at them that's why I think it's so important to show up neutrally and to manage our emotions because it's not fair to other people for me to take my emotions from one meeting or instance into the next because they're going to think it's about them and I could ruin their whole day you can make someone's life better or worse through this one interaction with them that you have just choose to make it better
