This Is How You Win Every Argument
Summary
- If you get into a fight with your spouse, try to notice how they react when they get mad.
- When one person gets really upset, the other often tries to calm them down, showing care and understanding.
- For example, if you mess up something like a dinner reservation and your spouse gets mad, they might calm down if you start feeling bad and apologizing.
- Instead of matching their anger, show regret and take responsibility. This can make them feel more protective and less angry.
- This approach helps in deescalating conflicts and showing empathy toward each other, strengthening the relationship.
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How To Take Action
Strategies for Implementing Improved Conflict Management and Relationship Building
Notice Reactions During Conflicts
I would suggest paying close attention to how your spouse or business partner reacts when they get upset. This is the first step in understanding how to manage and deescalate tension effectively. For example, during a disagreement, make a mental note of their immediate response and what seems to calm them down.
Harness Empathy and Responsibility
A good way of managing conflict is by showing empathy and taking responsibility if you make a mistake. Let’s say you mess up a dinner reservation. Instead of getting defensive or matching their anger, express genuine regret. Say things like, "I’m really sorry. I feel terrible about this." This shows that you care and helps to calm the situation faster.
Implement Deescalation Tactics
Another useful tactic is to counter anger with calmness. When someone is upset, try adopting a more subdued tone and acknowledge their feelings. The goal is to make them feel understood and supported which will ease their frustration. This can be especially useful in business partnerships where maintaining a professional and supportive relationship is crucial.
Use Real-Life Examples
Let's say you missed an important deadline at work, and your spouse or business partner is upset. Apologize sincerely and outline how you plan to prevent the mistake in the future. This shows accountability and a willingness to improve, which can reinforce trust.
Practice Consistently
Finally, practice these techniques consistently. The more you use them, the more natural they will become and the better your relationships will be. Consistency helps build trust and shows your commitment to improving how you handle conflicts.
By implementing these low-cost, high-value strategies, you can improve personal and professional relationships, making them stronger and more resilient.
Full Transcript
and if you haven't done this try it the next time you get to fight with your spouse if you've ever something up and your spouse has had to pay for it what I have noticed is that the more mad you get what you see is that they actually tend to deescalate so that they can actually regulate you so if your spouse comes in like oh my God I can't believe you forgot that we had dinner with so and so you planned this instead like now they're so pissed off of me and I have to tell him that we messed up the reservation I'm not going to throw you under the bus and you're like oh my God I'm such a idiot I hate myself I'm a freaking terrible wife I can't believe that I did this to you and all of a sudden you see the husband he's like oh babe no you're not a terrible wife geez no like I just I'm frustrated because I have to go to him and tell him that we can't have plans with him and he's going to think I'm not a reliable friend anytime you have somebody who's angry the way to deescalate it is to try and get more of it
