This One Thing Could Ruin Your Relationship

Summary

• If you put your spouse's needs before your own, you can end up feeling resentful.
• I had an employee at my last company, Gym Launch, who needed to be physically present for his job but didn’t want to move because his girlfriend didn't want to relocate.
• I told him he had two choices: either break up because their goals conflicted or find a way for their goals to benefit each other.
• I have a friend whose girlfriend hated his frequent traveling. He started taking her along, and she got to meet his co-workers, enjoy fancy dinners, and became more supportive of his goals.
• The way to fix a lack of support from your partner is to create an environment where your goals benefit both of you, not just yourself.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing strategies that align personal and business goals so both you and your partner can benefit together. Start with these easy, low-cost, high-value actions:

• Communicate Openly: Let your partner know why your goals matter to you and how achieving them will also positively impact them. Share your vision and listen to their needs too.

• Involve Them: If feasible, include your partner in your business activities. This could mean taking them to work events, introducing them to colleagues, or showing them what you do day-to-day. When they understand your environment, they may feel more supportive.

• Find Mutual Benefits: Look for ways your goals can align with your partner's interests. Maybe your business travel could include sightseeing or dining experiences they enjoy. The key is to make sure your journey benefits both of you.

• Balance Time: Be sure you’re not only focused on business. Allocate time specifically for your relationship, so your partner knows they are a priority too.

• Set Joint Goals: Establish goals that you can work on together. Whether it’s a business milestone or a personal project, having shared objectives can strengthen your bond.

Start with these steps and adjust as needed to create an environment where both your goals and your partner's desires coexist harmoniously. This way, you can grow together instead of growing apart.

Full Transcript

if you put your spouse before yourself you literally set yourself up for resentment I had somebody in my last company gym launch I wanted that person to move because that person specifically had a job that required them to be with us you know he said he's like hey guys like I don't know if I can come out here that much and I I certainly don't know if I can move my girlfriend doesn't want to and I was like do you want to he was like well yes and I said you have one of two choices you break up because your goals conflict or you find a way that your goals can benefit each other I have a friend his girlfriend hated the fact that he traveled all the time but then he started bringing her with him she got to meet his co-workers she was like oh they're pretty cool and then she got to go out to these fancy dinners suddenly she became more supportive of his goals and so this is how you fix this if your spouse or your partner doesn't support you you need to create an environment where your goals don't just benefit you they benefit them