This Was Our Biggest Relationship Hurdle
Summary
- When something upsets me, I tend to respond by becoming very cold and distant, which can last for several days.
- I realized that when I act this way, it negatively impacts my relationships, as my partner expressed concern about being with me if this behavior continued.
- It made me acknowledge that even if I love someone, I need to be willing to assess and change my behavior if it's not beneficial for the relationship.
- This moment of reflection helped me understand that unless I address this issue, it will continue to be a problem in my future relationships, with this person or someone else.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest starting with some self-reflection. Ask yourself how your actions make others feel. Realize that you might need to change some behaviors to help your relationships grow stronger. It's hard, but it's worth it. Keep in mind, change is not just for the other person, but also for your own happiness in the long run.
Here's a simple plan:
- When you're upset, try not to become cold and distant. Instead, give yourself a short time to cool off.
- After calming down, talk to the person about what upset you. Use "I feel" sentences rather than blaming them.
- Listen to their side too. Sometimes they might not even know they did something wrong.
- Work on being open to change. It's okay to adjust behaviors that hurt your relationships.
- Remember, if you don't tackle this problem, it will follow you. It's not just about keeping this partner, but about being better for all relationships, even future ones.
Now, imagine running a small business or being an entrepreneur. These steps are like customer service. If a customer is upset, don't ignore them or be cold. Listen to them, fix the issue, and show you're willing to change to make things right. That's how you build trust and keep customers happy.
For personal growth, reflect on what behaviors you might need to change for better results in life. Like in business, changing for the better keeps doors open for new opportunities.
Remember, change involves action, not just thoughts. So go from thinking to doing! And take it one day at a time. It's the small, daily improvements that lead to big successes.
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would just get very cold and shut him out if something happened I didn't like it wasn't like I was mean I was just cold I just didn't want to talk and it wasn't like oh I don't want to talk for a day it was like days I'll work with you I'll sit here I'll eat with you but I won't engage with you I remember we were in the car I was being cold to him and he said this thing where you like get really cold and shut me down if you keep acting this way like I can't be in a relationship with you and I was like and at that point you know I loved him but I wouldn't like change myself if I didn't think it was beneficial for me to be with him and the first thing that popped up to my head is like if I don't fix this now whether I stay with this guy or not it's going to be a problem in my next relationship