Try Saying “No”

Summary

• When you don't want to do something, try actually telling the truth. It's surprising to people when you're really honest.
• For example, if someone asks if you want to go to Sarah's birthday party, just say no if you don't want to. If they ask if you're busy, it's okay to say you're not busy but still don't want to go.
• Many people have a hard time saying no to things, but being honest about it can unlock a new level of confidence.
• You'll realize you can say no and nothing bad will happen. You'll feel good about your decision and have peace of mind.
• This approach allows you to make time for important things, like getting a good night's sleep or preparing for a productive day.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing the practice of honesty in small, everyday situations. When you get an invite you don't want, just be real. If someone asks you to go to an event and you don't want to, say no. If they ask why, tell them you just don't want to go. This can be surprisingly freeing.

You'll find saying no to things can give you more time for what matters. For example, instead of going out on a Friday night you don't care about, get some rest. This way, you can be fresh and ready to attack your goals the next day.

A good way to start is by setting boundaries. Choose one or two low-priority events or tasks and practice saying no. Notice how it feels and see the benefits of having more control over your time. This isn’t hard or time-consuming, but the payoff is huge.

Also, write down how you feel after being honest. This could boost your confidence when you see that nothing bad happened. You might even realize that people respect your honesty more than you thought.

Use this extra time you've created wisely. Invest it in learning, exercise, or developing your business. These small changes can lead to big gains down the road.

By following these steps, you'll not only find more time for important things but also build a life that's aligned with your true desires.

Full Transcript

try actually telling the truth when you don't want to do something it's jarring to people when you're just honest like really honest like hey do you want to go to this uh to Sarah's birthday party no and they're like uh what do you mean you busy like no I'm not busy but I don't want to go people have a hard time just saying no to things and I think that when you do that you unlock a certain level of confidence in yourself you're like oh I didn't die oh it's Friday night and I am going to get a good night's sleep because I do have a clear day tomorrow and I'm going to work my face off and I didn't have to go to Sarah's thing