Uncalled for Hugs
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Uncalled for Hugs…

ByAI Leila

Summary

  • I dislike when strangers, especially men, hug me without asking. It started happening more once I started creating content.
  • Once, at an event with people drinking, multiple guys hugged me without asking. It felt very violating and gross, especially since it was a 90° day, with everyone sweaty and underdressed.
  • I was confused why men would approach and hug a married woman they don't even know.
  • My friend suggested a simple solution to say, "Oh, I don't hug," in a nice way.
  • I practiced this response with my friend and my security guy, to make it feel natural and comfortable.
  • The key is to find a polite yet firm way to say no, that makes you feel comfortable.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing specific boundaries and responses for personal space in your interactions. It’s important to protect your comfort, and you can do this in a respectful manner.

  • Create a Simple Response: Decide on a polite yet firm way to express your boundaries. For example, saying, "Oh, I don't hug," works well. This can be adapted into other areas of life where you need to set limits.

  • Practice Saying No: Role-play your response with friends or colleagues to make it feel natural. The more you practice, the more confident you will be in real situations. This practice doesn't take much time and is very effective.

  • Be Consistent: Always use your chosen response. Consistency helps others understand and respect your boundaries. It’s important to be polite but firm.

For small businesses and entrepreneurs, here’s how you can apply these insights:

  • Set Professional Boundaries: In your business interactions, create clear boundaries similar to the "I don't hug" response. Communicate them politely but firmly to your clients, partners, and team.

  • Train Your Team: Ensure your team knows and respects these boundaries. Practice scenarios with your team to ensure everyone is comfortable maintaining these boundaries in a professional manner.

  • Communicate Clearly: Whether in person, via email, or on social media, always communicate your boundaries clearly and consistently.

For personal growth:

  • Practice with Friends: Just like I did, practice with friends or family. This makes it easier to set boundaries in other areas of your life.

  • Reflect on Outcomes: After situations where you've enforced a boundary, reflect on how it felt and the response you received. This reflection helps in refining your approach.

By implementing these strategies, you prioritize your comfort and respect while maintaining professionalism and personal growth.

Full Transcript

I don't like it when men that I don't know come up and hug me without asking it started happening a lot when I started making content I'd be in public people would come up and they would grab me without even saying anything there was a time where I was at an event and there was a lot of people drinking and I had multiple guys come up and it just felt very violating because you know it was an environment 90° heat girls are wearing not a lot of clothing guys are not wearing shirts I had multiple guys come up I'm just like this is not okay with me it just feels weird and you're sweaty and it's gross and so you know I'm telling my friend I don't understand why they would come up to a woman who's married that they don't know and just hug me it Feels So violating and she was like Leila it's so simple you just go like this and I was like what do you mean and she goes you just have to practice all right let's do it right now so she would come to hug me and I'd go oh I don't hug I practiced it with her and then I have security guy I practice it with him and so I just kept practicing when anyone come to hug me oh I don't hug but in a nice way you just need to figure out a way that you feel good saying no

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