We Don’t Matter
Summary
- I believe that wearing shirts saying "you matter" sets up unrealistic expectations.
- When reality doesn't meet these expectations, it can lead to disappointment.
- Suffering can be seen as the result of unmet expectations.
- To reduce suffering, you can change your mindset or try to change the world.
- It's more practical to adjust your own expectations rather than expecting the world to adapt to you.
- Demanding the universe, which is indifferent to our existence, to change for us is futile.
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How To Take Action
To reduce suffering in your life, I would suggest changing your expectations. Everyone has bad days, right? Well, it's often because what we think should happen doesn't. So instead of hoping the whole world will be the way you want, you can start with your own thoughts.
A good way of doing this is to make a list of things that frustrate you because they're not like you want. Then, for each one, ask yourself, "Is this something I can control?" If it's not, try to let it go. For example, if traffic jams make you mad, you could leave earlier or find a podcast to enjoy while you wait instead of being annoyed.
When you're an entrepreneur or running a business, focus on the little wins first. This could mean setting realistic goals. Maybe you want to get 10 new customers this month. Instead of just hoping they'll find you, think about one small thing you could do each day to reach out or make your product better.
For personal growth, try to do one nice thing for someone else without expecting anything in return. This way, you won't be disappointed if they don't thank you because you didn't do it for a thank you in the first place.
Remember, the universe doesn't owe us anything. Just focus on what you can do and try to be okay with what you can't change. This will make life a lot less stressful.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
"If you see suffering as unmet expectations, you can either change the conditions or you can change the expectations"
– Alex Hormozi
"One of them happens in your mind and the other one forces the entire world to change"
– Alex Hormozi
"People that wear shirts that say you matter I don't agree"
– Alex Hormozi
"By thinking that way you set yourself up to be upset at the world"
– Alex Hormozi
"The crazy thing is people will demand that a universe who doesn't know they exist or care change to their will"
– Alex Hormozi
Full Transcript
people that wear shirts that say you matter I don't agree and I think by thinking that way you set yourself up to be upset at the world it sets an expectation that we are bound to not see fulfilled and so if you see suffering as unmet expectations you can either change the conditions or you can change the expectations and one of them happens in your mind and the other one forces the entire world to change and the crazy thing is people will demand that a universe who doesn't know the exist or care change to their will which it won't
