When My Ex Told Me He Cheated

Summary

• I was in a past relationship for about a year and a half before I met Alex. My partner cheated on me while I was away for an internship.
• When he confessed to cheating, my reaction was calm, and I suggested that we could just be friends.
• I chose not to react with anger because yelling or making him feel worse wouldn't benefit anyone.
• Holding onto anger or grudges isn't productive, and I prefer to handle conflicts with understanding and compassion.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing the art of calmness and understanding when dealing with conflicts. When someone disappoints you, like my past partner did, it's okay to feel upset, but responding with understanding and calmness can actually benefit you more. It helps you maintain peace and respect in your relationships. Practice taking deep breaths and pausing before reacting in tough situations.

A good way of handling anger or grudges is to remind yourself that holding onto negative emotions isn't productive. Write down what you feel in a journal. This allows you to see your thoughts clearly and helps you let go of what doesn't serve you. Over time, you'll find you're lighter and happier without carrying grudges around.

For personal growth, focus on compassion. Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. This helps you react with empathy rather than hostility. It doesn't mean you accept poor behavior, but you choose to move forward in a way that reflects your values.

These actions are low-cost and can be done anytime. They will help foster healthier relationships and improve your own emotional well-being. Remember, the goal is to create a positive environment for yourself and those around you. Practicing these strategies can lead to a more peaceful and productive life.

Full Transcript

I had a relationship before Alex and that person I was with for about a year and a half I had gone away for a few months cuz I had an internship and I came back and then he let me know that he had cheated on me oh okay that was L what I said I remember I was like oh okay and I just literally go well we could just be friends then and he was crying he's like well it could be I was like no but I don't hate you you know just cuz you pissed me off or you did something shitty what do I gain from like yelling at him right now telling him he's buit and all stuff I don't want to make people feel worse than they already feel for anything just because what's the point