Why Are You Doing Things Out of Fear?

Summary

• When I started creating content, I avoided wearing sleeveless clothes. I realized this was driven by fear of judgment from others.
• A turning point came when a friend pointed out that I dressed in a way that hid my body, despite having a good figure. She said to me, "Why are you doing things out of fear?"
• This helped me understand that I shouldn't let fear dictate my actions or choices.
• It's essential to recognize when fear is guiding your decisions and work toward overcoming it.
• Making choices based on confidence, not fear, can lead to personal growth and greater authenticity.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest facing fear head-on. Take a moment to think about where fear might be influencing your choices, both in your personal and professional life. Ask yourself, "Am I doing this because I'm passionate, or am I letting fear decide my actions?"

A good way of doing this is by listing one area in your life where fear stops you from being true to yourself. Start small. For instance, if it's about the way you present yourself, like how I initially avoided wearing sleeveless clothes, challenge that fear by making a conscious choice to change one thing at a time. Wear something you love but are scared to try and see how it feels.

Think about starting conversations with yourself regularly. Create a habit of reflection every week, where you spend just 10 minutes identifying fears and considering if they are helping you or holding you back from growth.

Surround yourself with people who encourage you. Just like a friend's perspective helped me, a supportive community can offer valuable insights and push you towards authenticity. Find a mentor or friend to keep you accountable, someone who inspires confidence.

Remember, the practice of choosing actions based on confidence rather than fear is ongoing. With each step, you'll find more personal growth and the freedom to be your authentic self.

Full Transcript

I didn't even want to film content when I started 3 and 1/2 years ago without sleeves sleeves until my friend took me shopping and she said what are you doing and this was like 6 and 1/2 years later and I was like what do you mean you don't dress feminine you just wear frumpy clothes you cover everything I don't understand you've got a great body and I was like well because I don't I don't want people to judge me and she was like yeah I think that's stupid and it's so funny but it just took somebody else in that moment being like why are you doing things out of fear and I remember in that moment it wasn't even like oh I want to dress a certain way it was truly I don't want my actions to be dictated by fear of judgment