Why You Have Less Friends When You’re Older
Summary
- As we age, we often find ourselves with fewer friends.
- This isn't a sign of becoming less social.
- Rather, it indicates that our standards for friendships rise.
- Many friendships form out of convenience rather than deep compatibility.
- The likelihood of someone who lives nearby being a perfect fit for us long-term is generally low.
- It's important to prioritize what we want in a friend over mere proximity.
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How To Take Action
I would suggest first taking a hard look at your current friendships. Ask yourself, do they add value to your life? Remember, it's not about how many friends you have, it's about the quality of those friendships. If a friendship is not enhancing your life, it's okay to reassess and move on.
A good way of doing this is to make a list of traits you value in a friend. Do you want someone who is kind, ambitious, or maybe shares the same interests? Write down what's important to you. This becomes your friendship standard.
Now, focus on meeting new people who align with this standard. It doesn't need to be costly or time-consuming. You can start by joining online groups or communities that share your interests. Participate in discussions and attend any local meetups if possible. That's how you find those potential high-quality friends.
When you meet new people, be authentic. Share your interests and values. This helps you connect with those who are truly compatible, rather than forming friendships just because it’s convenient.
Remember, it's not about finding the nearest person to be friends with. It's about finding people who meet your standards no matter where they are. So, even if they live far, today's technology makes it easy to keep in touch.
And finally, prioritize your time. Allocate time to develop and maintain these valuable connections. Regular check-ins, whether through a quick text or a video call, can keep these friendships strong, even without needing to spend a lot of time or money.
By following these simple steps, you can cultivate a network of friends who not only meet your standards but also contribute positively to your growth and happiness.
Quotes by Alex Hormozi
"The older you get the fewer friends you tend to have"
– Alex Hormozi
"That's not because you're less social but it's because you have higher standards"
– Alex Hormozi
"Most people's friendships are out of convenience"
– Alex Hormozi
"They're just friends with people who were like lived across the hall from them"
– Alex Hormozi
"What is the chance that the person who lives across the hall from you is actually going to be a perfect fit for the type person you want to be with for a long time"
– Alex Hormozi
Full Transcript
the older you get the fewer friends you tend to have and that's not because you're less social but it's because you have higher standards most people's friendships are out of convenience and so they're just friends with people who were like lived across the hall from them but what is the chance that like the personis lives across the hall from you is actually going to be a perfect fit for the type person you want to be with for a long time probably not
