You Can Do Both, Just Not at the Same Time

Summary

• It's okay not to be perfect. Accept that you will have moments where you feel inadequate as a business owner or a parent.
• Feeling like a bad business owner or a bad mother doesn't mean you actually are one. These feelings are temporary and don't define your overall performance.
• Over a long period, like 10 years, your attention and love will balance out across the important parts of your life.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing acceptance of imperfection. It's normal to feel like you're not doing enough as a business owner or a parent. These feelings are temporary and do not define who you are. Remind yourself that over time, your efforts will balance out.

A good way of doing this is by setting small, manageable goals. For instance, instead of thinking you need to be perfect every day, aim to do your best at whatever task is at hand. This reduces stress and improves both your business performance and your quality of time with your children.

Another easy strategy is to create a simple schedule. Dedicate specific hours to work and specific hours to family time. This makes it easier to focus on one role at a time, and you’re less likely to feel like you're failing either one.

Next, practice mindfulness in your daily routines. When you’re working, be fully present there; when you’re with your family, focus entirely on them. This way, you’re making the most out of each moment.

Lastly, take time to reflect on your long-term impact. Every few months, review your progress and acknowledge the positive steps you've taken in both your business and personal life. Over a span of 10 years, you’ll see that you’ve balanced your attention and love across all important areas in your life.

These strategies require little time and cost, but they help create a sense of balance and remove the pressure of having to be perfect.

Full Transcript

in the audience the moment she raised her hand before she could even get words out she started crying and she said to me I feel so terrible because I have this business and I'm doing really well but at the same time I feel like I'm really failing as a mother I need to end my business because my children aren't getting the mom they need and it literally just like broke my heart because I could see that this woman is trying so hard to have a business and she also really wanted to be this mom for these kids and she felt like she was failing both of them and I told her was this it's okay not to be perfect it's okay to feel in a moment like you're a bad business owner it's okay to feel in a moment like you're a bad mother it doesn't mean you are and the reality is over 10 years and you look at the macro you probably evenly distributed your attention to the things that you love