You Can’t Be the Perfect Mom & CEO
Summary
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Balancing work and family can be tough, and it's normal to feel torn between the two. You might feel like you're failing at both, but remember this doesn't define you.
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It's okay to have moments where you feel like a bad business owner, spouse, or parent. This doesn't mean you are failing; it just means you are making trade-offs to manage different aspects of life.
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Life involves balancing small moments of focus on either work or family. If you look at these moments over a long period, like ten years, you'll likely find you distributed your attention well among the things you care about.
- Understand that perfection isn't achievable. Recognize it's alright to not be perfect and that you are doing your best in the circumstances you face.
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How To Take Action
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I would suggest embracing the understanding that perfection isn't possible in either your work or family life. Recognize that feeling like you're failing is just a part of balancing these roles. It's important to acknowledge these feelings without letting them define you.
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A good way to manage your time is by focusing on small moments with intent. Decide where your attention is needed most for that moment—if today's moment is focused on business, make it count. Then, when the moment shifts to family, be present and engaged there.
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Track these moments over time. Keep a simple journal of where you spend your time weekly. Review it monthly or yearly to see how you're distributing your focus—this can reassure you that you're making balanced choices over the long term.
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Instead of setting unattainable goals, set realistic ones that consider your current circumstances. Understand that it's okay to make trade-offs. What's important is that over time, these decisions balance out in line with your values.
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Lastly, reach out for support when needed. Sharing your feelings with a supportive friend, family member, or mentor can provide perspective and alleviate the burden of trying to be perfect. It's empowering to know you're not alone in facing these challenges.